Will Smith |Divorce Thoughts

I really enjoy hearing about Will and Jada Pinkett-Smith’s relationship. It seems like they are really grounded, and I hope that nothing comes in the way of their union.

Will Smith recently spoke in an interview and said that he could have made his first marriage work. In fact, he said that divorce was “the most painful loss” he’d ever endured. It was probably very refreshing for his first wife to hear him admit some fault in what happened.

Finding out your husband is cheating is very, very painful. After reading about Will Smith’s experience, I wondered if getting a divorce would be just as painful as finding out about the affair. Some days, it feels easier to have us both under the same roof. At the same time, we do not know how to work on things, and he still puts working on the relationship in my court only, which is a bunch of crap.

Will and Jada have said that they are going to be together no matter what, divorce is not an option. I think that Will and Jada have a willingness to work hard and communication, which is why I believe that they can stay married. I wish my husband would work hard for our marriage, but it does not seem that this is going to happen, unfortunately.

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  1. Hi to all,
    I happened to stumble upon this site while googling how to ask your husband to wear a condom. I never knew so many women I dealing with cheating husbands. Well, where do I start. My husband and I have been together since I was 18 years old and I married him at the age of 20. I’m now 27 years old. Infidelity is something I have combated in our relationship since we were dating. But I thought things would be different once we got married. After being married for 6 months he cheated on me in our house while I was asleep in the bedroom with a mutual friend. Then he went to Korea and cheated on me while he was over there. So, I decided to get even with him I cheated on him with one of his friends. But that only made matters worse. But we talked about it and decided to continue to stay married. We were going to start fresh. I decided to go active duty Army and join him in Korea. But he continued to cheat on me. When I found out, we had a argument in which he hit me several times. But like always I forgave him. He promised never to do it again. We then moved to Fort Bragg, N.C., we where both deployed to Afghanistan. I suspected he was cheating but I couldn’t prove it. When we got back from deployment, we brought a house. Just to let you know the time frame it’s now 2010. I have knee surgery and the whole time while I’m recovering he is going out late at night and not returning to the early morning. I suspect he is cheating but I have no proof. The following year I decided to change my job in the military. And I go to school in MD. Leaving my husband at the house in N.C. I finally catch him cheating when I come back. He was not just cheating on me with one OW but several. But I only found out two weeks before he had to deploy again back to Afghanistan. I decided to forgive him yet again because he promised to go to Marriage counseling upon his return. I blamed myself because I was away from him not being able to fulfill he needs. He reruns from deployment 6 months early. Not even 3 weeks into him being back I find out he is cheating on me. In which would explain he erratic behavior if talking down to me. So, we decide to see a counselor. I discover that I’m pregnant and again I thought that would be the game changer. Nope! He went away to school for 8 months. So I was alone the entire pregnancy and he was still contacting the OW that I confronted before we went to counseling. On top of that he was on a dating website looking for other women all while I’m pregnant. Once I found out yet again. I went to counseling so I didn’t completely lose my mind or our child. He said he would stop. (Yet again) I moved with him to Texas. He is currently deployed again for the 3rd time. But I having the feeling it’s only a matter of time before he cheats again. Why am I such an idiot for staying? I thought that it was the military/ Army that made him cheat? I only cheated on him once why does he keep doing it to me?

    1. A man that cheats is a man that cheat, married or not. A man that cheats is a man that cheats, kids or no kids. A man that cheats is a man that cheats, weather you live together or not. Army does not make one cheat. A cheater is a cheater is a cheater.

      I want you to get that loud and clear. Nothing you do is going to make him ‘not cheat’. Based on what you wrote, it appears that he the type of cheater that is just going to cheat, and it does not feel like he is going to stop anytime soon.

      You ask why you continue to stay? You are not an idiot. Most caring women really want your husband to do better, you see it in him, and you hold on to hope that he will change. We all have been down that path. What you have to ask yourself is are you neglecting yourself in the process? Never neglect your own sanity and peace for another person. The only way he is going to change is if he decides what he is doing is wrong and unacceptable. Right now, he see’s no problem with the current set up, but that is probably because there is no ramifications.

      Last but not least, I know this is hard not to do, but do not take it personal. His cheating has to do with his own values, that is a reflection of him, not you. That being said, he is not cheating because of you, he is cheating because he decided to cheat. Take care, and I hope everything works out, thanks!

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