Husbands who commit adultery often blame their wives for the affair. “I cheated because we argued too much.” “I cheated because we didn’t have enough sex.” “I cheated because I was stressed and overwhelmed.” “I cheated because I didn’t feel important to you now that we have kids.” “I cheated because she made me feel good.” I cheated because – it can go on for days! I’m sure you’ve heard it all. Anybody can make up any excuse to cheat, it’s easy.
The response that most wives crave after catching their husband cheating is: “I cheated because I was selfish and thinking about myself only. I made the choice to cheat and accept full responsibility; it had nothing to do with you.” That would be wonderful to hear, because at the end of the day, that is the reason for cheating.
In my opinion, it’s ridiculous and wrong for a husband to blame his infidelity on his wife. EVERYONE experiences relationship problems; just because you have a problem with your marriage does not give you a “cheat for free” card.
So next time the cheating spouse tells you that his reason for having an affair has anything to do with you, don’t believe it. A spouse always has other alternatives to cheating. In the end, he needs to take responsibility for his actions.