Hi Ladies, I hope everyone is doing better than the day before. I am still plugging away writing the book and trying to manage life in between. It will be available within the next couple of months. If you are on my email list you will surely receive notification.
I want to share with you today something I have noticed about infidelity. I have had the experience of talking with men that have previous cheated on their wives and at some point visited this website. The first was my ex-husband. His reaction was something along the lines of him not knowing that I was really this hurt over the affair. At the time, I thought to myself ‘How could you not see the intense pain?’. I wondered if he was really serious with his statement or not. But over the course of the past couple of years, several men have visited the site and had a similar reaction. They are surprised. Shocked almost at how painful this experience is for many wives. I believe many husbands that cheat never intend to put us in a position of such pain. They do not wake up saying ‘I can’t wait to devastate my wife.’ One cheating husband visited the website, and immediately called the person that sent him the link and remorsefully said ‘I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I didn’t know it was this painful for her’.
I think a cheating husband might see their wife upset , angry, or even sad, but when they come to the website and read the stories, the words of the pain of betrayal put on paper, it is more powerful. Often it is difficult to verbally express our pain, especially to those that we love. And if you have been in a relationship with someone for a while, it is difficult for both parties to communicate without consciously or subconsciously bringing up factors ‘outside’ of the direct topic. If you have been cheated on and have a hard time expressing your thoughts to your husband, have him visit this site. The intent is not to make him feel bad, the intent is to give him a perspective of how you might be feeling in order to open up and facilitate a meaningful discussion. Hugs to you all……and HAPPY NEW YEAR!