Surviving an affair is all about preventing yourself from feeling low and depressed. When your husband has an affair, you’re often so shocked and upset that you have no idea what to do next. Here are some things that have helped me in my journey to recover.
1. Remember its okay to grieve. The man you committed the rest of your life to hurt you in a way you probably never thought he could. It is ok to be a mess over this discovery. I am going on a year and a half since I found out about the affair, and I still cry every once in a while. I am okay with that, and you should be as well.
2. Make a game plan. If you found out about your husband’s affair over six to twelve months ago and haven’t decided yet if you’re going to work things out or not, it’s time to really look at your situation and make some choices. You should either make a game plan to exit the marriage or a game plan to stay in the marriage. Either way, I strongly encourage you to think and plan your next steps carefully, because wobbling between staying and leaving is a huge stress to both you and your husband.
3. Take some time to be alone. I mean this in the fun sense of being alone, not the kind of alone where you sit alone in the house feeling terrible. Go to a museum by yourself or visit your favorite store or restaurant. Treat yourself to a good massage or a pedicure. Basically, do anything by yourself that will make you feel good. Whether you stay or leave your marriage, you still have to be comfortable being alone, because during those times is where you energize your spirit. Try it out for yourself and let me know how it works.
As you can see, surviving an affair is about focusing on your needs and giving yourself some time to heal. These are just three quick tips in dealing with cheating spouses that I hope will help you in your journey.