I know people who read my posts are at different stages in their recovery. Some just found out their husbands were having an affair, and the pain is so deep they wonder how they are going to get out of bed tomorrow. Some have lived in misery for a while and wonder when things will start to look positive again. And some are in a stage of recovery where they are in a calm and positive place. No matter what your situation is, or where you are in your recovery journey, the fact of the matter is that YOU CAN RECOVER.
When I talk about recovery, please note and remember that I am talking about your own personal recovery. There are tons of books and other information out there about how to rebuild your marriage following an affair, and I encourage you to seek out that information if you decide to work on your marriage. In my opinion, however, your personal recovery is more important than your husband’s.
And your personal recovery is really important. When your husband cheats, it rocks your world; your image, your life, and your soul are changed forever. And in order to recover from it successfully, you must take a series of steps. Step one is really important. It’s making sure that you have the confidence to believe that you (personally) can recover from this experience and become a better person. You have to believe it is possible.
If you’re at a place where you can’t see it yet, don’t worry, I have confidence in you that you will get to this place. You owe it to yourself to get to this place. Your husband’s affair should not define you as a woman.