Recovering from an affair is not easy, and inspirational quotes have helped me along the way. I believe quotes are so powerful that they can literally give you a new perspective that can change your life. So today, I am going to share with you a quote I like, that helped me in personal recovery from my husband’s affair. I hope it will help you too.
“I believe everything happens for a reason, people change so you can let go. Things go wrong so you can appreciate them when they are right. You believe lies so that you will eventually trust no one but yourself, and sometimes, good things fall apart so better things fall together.”
I really like this quote because it touches on things that I think we are all striving to get out of this experience. The first sentence says that things happen in order for us to let go. So often we think things happen to us for negative reasons, when really they might be happening because it’s time for us let go of something (a relationship, a person, a job, etc.) and there is no other way to show us that it’s time.
The second line touches on appreciation. I really feel like when you go through a very painful relationship, the next time around (there will be either a next time or a new phase in your marriage), you will appreciate the non-painful relationship much more, whereas prior to the pain, you wouldn’t know how to appreciate that aspect of a relationship.
Next, let’s look at the part that talks about believing lies so that you learn to trust no one but yourself. This is deep. It is basically saying you should trust yourself and your instincts over anything else. Ask yourself, how many times should we believe our cheating husbands over our own feelings (especially prior to their affairs)? My interpretation of this sentence is that you should trust your instincts instead of worrying about forcing trust onto others.
Lastly, Marilyn Monroe says that sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. Never underestimate the power of thinking that something good can come out of this bad experience.
As you go forth recovering from an affair, I hope this little quote gives you a glimmer of hope.