Dealing with a cheating spouse is not a walk in the park. It’s even harder when he tells you to “just get over it!” while you’re dealing with one of the most difficult situations you will ever face. I bet a million dollars they would be livid if we’d cheated on them and told them to just forget about it!
I feel that our husbands that commit adultery sometimes have no idea how their affair has literally changed the foundation of trust in the marriage forever, which isn’t something anyone can just easily “get over.” When women tell me that their husbands say that to them, I think, “Wow, he does not get it, has no idea what this does to a woman. He is not helping, he is hurting.” What we want to hear are things like, “I see you are having a difficult time coping with my infidelity. Is there anything I can do to help?” or “You seem like you are in a great deal of pain over the affair. Maybe we should talk about this more so I can help you deal with this.”
Our marriage isn’t a test we didn’t pass in high school. It is not a promotion we didn’t get or some clothes that we couldn’t afford. It is our pride and joy, our dreams, our comfort, and our lives that got shattered by the behavior of someone we trusted. So if any man who has cheated on his wife reads this, please do not tell your wife to just “get over”.