It is important to me that if you are a man visiting this site to read my message to you below.
There are a couple of things I want you to be aware of concerning this site. The first is that this is not a men-bashing site. This is a healing site primarily for women (but men are welcome to come). You might perceive it as a men-bashing site at first glance, but I encourage you to read the content. What you will find is women all over the world coming together to help support and encourage each other through their pain. Again, this has nothing to do with men bashing, and everything to do with helping wives not to feel so alone after an affair has entered the foundation of a home.
The second thing I want you to be aware of is that I am totally in tune with the fact that women cheat. I have interacted with many men who have been just as devastated as the women on the site. Although most of the stories on my site are about men cheating, it absolutely goes both ways. I am also aware that for every man that cheats, there is a woman that is willing. I get it. The reason this site focuses on a cheating husband because that just happens to be my personal experience. If you are a man reading this and decide to create a site to help other men, I would absolutely encourage you do so.
The third thing is that I am very fortunate to have some incredible men come into my presence. Men that I have met and shared the site with, and have nothing but kind and inspiring words for me to continue my work. I am grateful for those men in my life, you know who you are, and I thank all of you. Whenever a woman comes to the site and asks ‘are there any good men out there?’ I think of my friends and can confidently say YES!
I have had the pleasure of interacting with many men on the topic of cheating. I have talked to men that are thinking about cheating, men that have cheated, and men that have been cheated on. Most men that have cheated come to the site and have no idea that their wives are so impacted by infidelity. We all can learn something about this experience
Last but not least, my husband and I are divorced, and we get along, there is no drama between us. I do not blame him for the demise of the marriage, for that, we are both at fault. Some of my actions in the marriage caused my ex-husband a great deal of pain, I am aware that some of my actions hurt the marriage. At the same time, I do not accept responsibility for his act of cheating, that act is his to own. I do not define my ex-husband by his act of cheating, I define him by his ability to mature, his ability to be a great father to our kids, and his ability to grow and learn from his mistakes. I wish him well as he has his own life journey to experience. He understands as I have told him that this site is not about him, it is about helping a cause bigger than both of us, which is the silent epidemic of cheating that is wrecking havoc on families all over the world.