I recently watch Barbara Walter’s TV Program titled “The 10 Most Fascinating People of 2009.” Surprisingly, two of the women featured on the show have gone through the pain of a cheating husband, Kate Gosselin and Jenny Sanford. I really enjoyed Jenny Sanford’s interview (so much that I wrote this post about it: Jenny Sanford ). She had such strong conviction, and her confidence was something that should be an example for all of us in our journeys.
For those of you who haven’t been following the story or who need a refresher, Jenny’s husband cheated on her with a woman who lived in Argentina. After Jenny found out (and before it got out to the press), she moved herself and her four kids out of the house she and her husband shared. She told her husband not to contact her or the kids for thirty days. At that time, she was thinking that her cheating husband would come to his senses and see what he had to lose. Unfortunately, he still didn’t get it and kept up the affair. At that point, she moved out for good and has never looked backed. While most famous women and women in political positions stand by their man during public appearances after his affair, she didn’t. She was moving on. The BEST thing that she said in the entire interview is this: “Certainly his actions hurt me, and they caused consequences for me, but they don’t in any way take away my own self-esteem. They reflect poorly on him.”
That was a powerful statement, and something that I really needed to hear at this point in my personal recovery from my husband’s affair.
If we could all bounce back with this type of attitude after our spouses cheated, the world would be a better place! However, I think each woman’s journey after her husband’s affair is different. For me, I don’t think I am there yet, BUT I know I will get there. And you will too.
Thanks, Jenny, for such a great interview. Your story has helped many women.