Trapped. Alone. Stuck. No where to go. Can not leave. Does this sound like you?
After infidelity has entered the marriage, it is common to feel trapped. I remember saying to myself, ‘I can’t love my husband after he cheated, I can’t afford the house on my own, I can’t do this to the kids, I can’t pay the bills on my own, I can’t raise two small kids by myself. My hands are tied…so I thought.
I am now living on my own, raising my kids, paying my bills.
When I reflect back on the situation, I was frozen, frozen with my own fears, my own share, and my own feelings of being trapped. When I felt trapped, I could not progress in my journey to affair recovery. I was paralyzed by a fear of not feeling empowered to make a decision.
In time, I learned to let go of the feeling of entrapment. I learned that the feelings I had, was just that – a feeling. I started to force myself and fight for my right (mentally) to have a choice in the situation. I wrote a small affirmation that say ‘I have many options available to me to handle this situation.’ and would say that over and over again, until I started to feel empowered again. I started to see more choices over time, because that is what I was training my mind to do.
I started to look at life differently and realize that I might not have a choice in how others act, and although I might not be enthusiastic about the choices available, I have options. I am not trapped. And in area’s that I felt trapped, I searched for options, sometimes even months, until I saw more choices available to me.
You have more choices than you think not only in affair recovery, but life. Hugs to everyone!!