Part I of this series explored the impact of cheating on your self-esteem. Part II talked about the impact an affair has on trust within the marriage. Today, I will discuss the final impact of finding out that your husband had sex outside the marriage. This impact can actually be positive or negative.
The impact is that you will never see life in the same manner again. Finding out your husband has cheated is a LIFE-CHANGING EVENT. You will go through a stage where you question your beliefs, your values, and your place in this world. For many women in several cultures around the world, being a wife means holding a place of value in society and is closely connected with a woman’s identity. Infidelity causes you to re-evaluate who you are.
This particular impact will serve as a moment of truth for you. There will come a time after you muddle through the pain and misery, a time where you will look at yourself in the mirror and say, “What now?”
I hope you will answer that question by saying, “It’s time to get myself together and focus on me, evaluate where I am in life and where I want to go. It’s time to look at my current state and make some changes. While some women do this, others will accept anger and sadness as acceptable emotions long-term, losing faith in the most important thing they have – themselves.
As women, we have to believe that our husbands’ affairs will not be the end of us. Yes, life will never be the same, but a part of you has to believe that you went through this horrible experience to become a stronger and wiser woman. Keep having faith in yourself.