Today is the Part I of a three-part series on the topic of the impact cheating has on a marriage. Unless you have gone through the pain of finding out your husband committed adultery, it is difficult to understand and describe how you feel. Taking a deep dive into the impact of infidelity within a marriage is important, without self-reflection, adultery can lead to years of pain and depression.
The first impact of catching your husband cheating is your self-esteem. An affair often shatters your self-esteem. You can feel that your husband had an affair because you were not sexy enough or fun enough or pretty enough. Those thoughts are seriously enough to drive you crazy. Then, when/if you try to work on the relationship, your self-esteem is so damaged that you may start to wonder, “Am I so weak that I’d really stay and put up with his behavior; am I not strong enough to leave?” It’s like a little voice in your ear that won’t go away! It is so easy to feel like a failure.
Damaged self-esteem is an extremely common feeling after the affair. Unfortunately many of the books that I have read on affair recovery focus on healing of the marriage and do not address the self-esteem impact. This feels really counterproductive to me. I can’t give love to anyone or restore a relationship when my self-esteem is low. In fact, because of the lack of resources out there, I’ve decided my next e-book will focus on how YOU can build yourself up after the devastation from adultery within the marriage.
Try to make time to focus on restoring your confidence and getting that shine and energy you have as a beautiful woman back!
Part II of this series will discuss the next major impact of finding out your partner cheated.