In part I of this two part series, I talked about how Elin’s interview reminded me that the pain of finding out your husband committed infidelity is universal. Today, I will talk about how having money and being famous impacts you when you find out your husband cheated.
Although this isn’t always the case, typically when a famous married person is involved in a cheating scandal, they very rarely stay married (or live in the same house) with their partner for very long. When you have money, you can literally leave the next day and get away from everything that reminds you of the affair. This isn’t so for most of us “regular women”; for us, the husband is usually in the same house the day, week, and often for many months after he cheats. Needless to say, this causes tension and drama. I feel like one of the main reasons divorces get messy is because people stay under the same roof while experiencing very intense negative emotions (usually for financial reasons). On a positive note, living under the same roof after the affair sometimes gives the both of you a chance to talk to and better understand each other.
Money also helps protect a wife of a cheating husband from these emotions in another way. When you have money, you can afford to go away for a week or so (with or without your husband) and just think about the situation. Most of us can’t do this. We have obligations like kids, family issues, jobs, and more that we have to handle while working through the problems infidelity causes. And even if you do have money to get away, the needs of your kids may limit the amount of “think time” you have.
Lastly, when you have money, you can pay for top therapists to help you individually and as a couple. I think going to a great therapist who specializes in couples or marriage counseling can do wonders for your recovery efforts. Unfortunately, if you don’t have money (or at least insurance that covers therapy), this isn’t often an option.
There are pros and cons to having money and dealing with an affair, but again, the pain is universal no matter how much money you have.