One could easily come to this site, see the hundreds of stories and wonder, “Do all men treat their wives like this?” The answer is no. I have also been fortunate enough to interact with several men who have contacted me privately, devastated that their wives have cheated on them. I can tell from their emails that they are in terrible pain over the ordeal, much like the wives on this site. And with each email like this I receive, I remember that there are good men out there.
I stated off this year by asking the universe to show me evidence that there are good men out there, and I received it. One such man talked to me about my ex-husband in an airport when we were stuck waiting for our flight for two hours. He was so horrified at my ex’s actions that he was almost in tears, saying he couldn’t live with the pain he would cause his wife of thirty years if he did that to her. I have also met men who are confident and willing to be open and honest, so much so that I get the sense they are fulfilled in their marriages and lives and do not feel the need to cheat. That doesn’t mean they are not capable of cheating; it just means that, at this present moment, I do not believe they have cheated. But everyone is capable; you never know how you will react in a situation until you are in it. The days of believing that someone would never cheat are over for me.
With that said, I honestly do not think that the majority of our husbands or ex-husbands are bad people who were planning to lie and cheat on us. Of course, some cheaters are just liars and bad people, but some cheaters just hit a point in their lives where they want their egos stroked. They thought sex with another woman would give them the fulfillment they wanted, or that they could handle an emotional affair, but it backfired, and the wife is left trying to pick up the pieces of a shattered marriage. I am in no way excusing cheating behavior, just trying to make a point that all men that cheat are not bad people.
So, while all men don’t cheat, many do, and the only thing I can hope for is that married couples get better at being more open with each other. I think if cheating men learn to open up to their wives about how they are feeling, they would be surprised at how they can work out their problems.
So to all the husbands out there who are faithful, cheers to you!