Dealing with a cheating spouse can have tremendous detrimental effects on your health. Some days I feel very weak because I am carrying such a load of resentment and anger, and that stress harms my body. Since I found out my husband had cheated, I have been to the doctor at more than fifteen times in one year. Fifteen times in one year! Before that time, I didn’t even go in for a yearly check-up because I felt fine and am usually in great health.
Most of the visits were because of weird things. Once, for example, I woke up wrong and could not turn my neck for 4 days. My back pain was getting worse, I got a bizarre infection in my leg, cheat pain – you name it, my body was not functioning properly. I’ve also lost weight, which people have been noticing.
Part of the problem is that I let situations get me worked up, and I am trying to work on it. For instance, I don’t engage much with my husband in conversation anymore, because I know that doing so will cause disappointment and now physical health problems. I need to be healthy for myself and for my kids.
I am not proud that I let the affair affect me so much that it impacts my health, but I am working on dealing with stress everyday. And as long as I am learning, I am empowered to improve and make a change, which is what life is all about.