Coping with infidelity is tough, especially when you first find out. For the first month or two after I found the sexual text messages my husband had sent to the other woman, I was a daze. I couldn’t remember basic things, and I was not functioning properly. I felt as though I had lost my mind.
One particular thing I kept doing during this period was really embarrassing. One day, I took my daughter and son (who was only three months old at the time) to the store to get groceries. When I came back to the car, I noticed the door was wide open. I was nervous, wondering who had done this and if they had stolen anything. After checking and finding that everything was there, I realized that I had left my own car door open! Not just a little bit open ladies – WIDE OPEN! And this didn’t only happen once, but four times! On time four, I waited until no one was around and then walked casually over to my car, so that people wouldn’t think there was something wrong with me for not being able to close my own door. I am glad no one stole my radio or the car itself!
Another “crazy moment” happened the day I found out that he was still cheating. I came home after talking to the OW and I had never been angrier in my life. I told him that I knew he was still talking to her. He was all casual, and that pissed me off even more. Suddenly, the phone rang, and I told him not to answer because we had to talk. He did anyway, and it was his twenty-one-year-old niece. I snatched the phone out of his hand and screamed into the receiver, “I AM SORRY, LITTLE NIECE, BUT YOUR UNCLE IS F—ING ANOTHER WOMEN NAMED X. SHE IS SO YOUNG YOU MIGHT EVEN KNOW HER, SO HE CAN’T TALK ON THE PHONE RIGHT NOW!”
Needless to say, he was shocked! Then I said, “Well it’s out now. Since you don’t want to talk, who else should we call?” Of course, then he didn’t want to talk on the phone anymore. Looking back now, this situation is kind of funny (though it wasn’t at the time) my niece actually did know the person he was sleeping with.
I can laugh at things like this now, but at the time I thought I was going crazy. Let me know if you did anything like this. I hope I am not alone!