Today, I finally told my dad about my husband cheating on me. I had told my mom and sister already, but I put off telling my dad because I feared his disappointment. My dad is big into family and really wants me to think twice about making all major decisions because of my little ones. I thought he was going to say, “Do whatever it takes to keep it together,” but he was more realistic than I thought he’d be.
He recommended counseling. I told him I wanted my cheating husband to set it up. He said it didn’t ultimately matter who did, and that I should set it up myself and then get a feel during the sessions about whether my husband is really willing to do what it takes to rebuild trust. Additionally, my dad said if my husband cheated again, I should pack my stuff and leave immediately, make him realize that he lost out. He also told me if the marriage doesn’t work, then I have to work on starting out fresh and giving my children the most comfortable life possible.
Even though I felt better after the call, I still feel like I disappointed him, even though I wasn’t the one who cheated. I feel like I disappointed him in my choice of a man. I had this same feeling when I told him I was with an abusive man some years ago. But I am still glad I had the conversation.