It seems like every time I want to go out, my husband gives me a hard time or is all of a sudden ‘busy’. He has never directly said it, but he is irritated when I go out with friends. Every time I want to do something, he says he has plans so I won’t be able to go—at least not without getting a babysitter. It’s just as bad that he questions me all the time about where I go and what I’m doing, even though he’s the one who cheated. What is wrong with this story? What is wrong with me?
I used to feel bad going for going out, even prior to finding out about the infidelity, because I knew he would question me when I got home, as if I was lying. Despite knowing I would be questioned, I still went bowling yesterday with friends, and had a great time!
So here’s my drama. After giving me SO much trouble for going out and having fun, he tells me that he is going out and stays out until 4 a.m. I bet you a million dollars he did that to “get back” at me. I came home at 10:30. Nothing good happens after 1am if you are not home with your wife, nothing good at all.
This is the frustrating silliness I have to deal with until I can afford to leave. Hopefully the next time I go out, I won’t feel bad if he gets annoyed.