Sad after the affair

When Does The Pain of the Affair End?

Many women contact me months and sometimes years after their husband’s affair, looking for an answer to why they are still in so much pain. Common questions include: Why does the pain linger on so long after the affair? How can I start to heal? One reason why it’s so difficult to get beyond the …

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After the Affair – The Different Types of Crying

I have come to realize that there are two types of crying associated with finding out that your husband had an affair. Both are very important towards your recovery, and understanding both types is crucial. Type I: The hurt/anger cry: This is the type of crying that comes with the pain of finding out that …

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Cougar Town and Why Do We Help Our Cheating Husbands?

I just recently watched my first episode of Cougar Town, which is a sitcom about a divorced woman entering the dating scene again. The plot of the episode I watched involved the main character Jules (almost like my name!) still feeling that she needs to help her ex-husband with several things. Towards the end of …

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When a husband cheats on you – the shock

When you are faced with a husband that cheats on you, it is utterly shocking. You see other people faced with infidelity, but you think that happens in ‘other people’s’ marriages’. It is hard to imagine your husband cheating until it occurs.  Personally, I thought my husband would never cheat on me.  But I guess …

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