Raising kids after an affair can be tough especially during the first few months. Just finding out about infidelity in marriage is emotionally draining; to raise kids at the same time is difficult. One of the hardest parts for me personally was crying all day, finally calming down enough to go to sleep, only to be woke up in the middle of the night to feed my son. Or being very low and sad, and then smacking that smile on my face to play with my innocent little daughter. It’s tough, very tough. So if you have experienced this feeling, you are not alone.
I do admit, I was fortunate because I asked my husband to help me out because I felt so weak (as most women do after an affair) and he did help. And when talking with other women dealing with infidelity, some husbands don’t help, or don’t give you a break during this time.
YOU DESERVE A BREAK FROM THE KIDS AFTER AN AFFAIR IN THE MARRIAGE!!! Even if your husband doesn’t help, try to find someone that can help so that you can take a break, even for a day or week. You’ll certainly be amazed with what that can do. IN ORDER TO RECOVER, you need to have enough time to process. If your husband is willing to help, use that time to get away from the house and process your thoughts. Take a walk, go to the bookstore, do anything that is calming to you. Do not deprive yourself of this. I did for a while, feeling in some strange way that I should be at home with the kids all the time. I have grown since then, and realize that you will literally lose yourself with that mentality.
The best thing you can do for your kids is show them how to put themselves first even after an affair, and the only way to do that is to show them by your example.