Bob Marley once said
“You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice.”
I really like this quote as it made me reflect on my own life experience. If you are faced with an affair in your marriage, it is often the most difficult time in the marriage. People always said what they will do in a situation, but until you are in it, you really don’t know what you will do. But the truth remains, that if you are dealing with an affair, it is a test of your strength, a test of how much you can endure and survive. You will utilize mental muscles that were never stretched before. You will feel emotions that were never felt. You will question life in ways that you never had prior.
And in the middle of the storm, you are developing something. Something so powerful that if you have the right perspective, it can change your life for the better. And that is strength. The day after my husband cheated someone in the family told me ‘It will be ok, you are going to be so much stronger because of this.’. I didn’t believe him, I was devastated. Stronger? Years later, he was right. Now that I have made it through that experience, I feel I can tackle more than I could before. I stand up for myself more. I do not tolerate mess.
There is a stronger person growing out of the pain, the tears, and the sadness. That is my hope for everyone that comes to read this, that they come out of the experience stronger than before. Hugs to all!!