Revenge for cheating, we all secretly want payback at one point in our recovery journey.
When you’re dealing with a partner who has cheated, you may feel justified in hurting him and getting him back for what he did. It’s human nature to have that little voice in your ear urging you to make him pay. But I am here to tell you to quiet that voice. Revenge is not the way to handle an affair.
Why do I say this? Well, revenge actually takes a good amount of effort and time. You already have to deal with the grief of finding out about your cheating husband, the stress of deciding what to do next, the pain of a broken heart, and everything else that happens in day-to-day life.
Hear is something that I learned the hard way, your husband will never express or show the amount of pain and misery his affair has caused him in the same manner that you would. Sometimes if you seek to take revenge, you are setting yourself up for a disappointing reaction.
Revenge focuses too much energy, time, and attention on your husband and his actions and not on you. I wish all women dealing with an unfaithful husband would focus inward as much as they focus on the marriage, it is important to deal with YOUR feeling. Revenge is only a temporary fix, will not make you feel better or get to the root of the problem.
If you need something else to think about other than revenge, visit the Affair Recovery Tips section of the website.