So I know I am a bit late (thanks to TIVO), but I just finished watching Whitney Houston on Oprah.
It was interesting to hear about the drugs, the money and her lifestyle; I was totally glued to every word she said about her relationship with her former husband, Bobbi Brown. Ladies, she fell into the trap many of us fall into, including myself. Trying to lower your standards to make your husband feel like ‘the man’. Now I do feel for Whitney from the standpoint that I would imagine it would be very difficult with all of her money to make a man feel like a man.
But I was so surprised she experienced the pain of a cheating husband, and her emotions were similar to my emotions. I make more money than my husband as well, so I felt that I would listen to him more, agree to do things his way even though I hated it, not go out as much to make him feel good, all so that he can feel like ‘the man’. And just like what happened to Whitney, you think you’re doing the right thing, and it backfires, and he cheats. You could tell Whitney was hurt by the fact after all that they went through, he would disrespect her by bringing another woman into her house – my cheating husband did the same thing!
So for one moment in time I felt a strong ‘cheating husband’ connection with her during the show. And even though it was through the TV, I felt so good knowing that we can be bonded through this experience, bonded in a way that transcends all financial backgrounds, all races and religions. The hurt from infidelity is universal. The only good thing about hurt being universal is that it gives me faith that the healing can be universal as well. Thanks Whitney for being so open and making me feel not so alone.
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