I think the moment when you actually take your wedding ring off following an affair is a really powerful one. I actually took my ring off in anger weeks ago, but decided not to put it back on as a sign of strength. I think many times we women keep that ring on because it feels so safe. We don’t have to explain our situation to anyone, we don’t have to answer questions, and, it just feels right.
I actually took my ring off to show that I can be confident and proud with or without wearing it. In fact, I also think it helped the situation with my husband after I found out he cheated. I almost think that he was using the fact that I still wore my ring as a sign that everything was okay between us. Now, mind you, ladies, I have not been able to get him to open up, he is still pretty insensitive, almost acts as if he doesn’t care. So I did this as a way to show him that I don’t need a ring to feel safe. I am proud, sexy, and beautiful with or without it. A ring or marriage does not define me as a person.
Of course I am at a point in my recovery where I am very confident in my decisions, and I have a game plan for moving forward (though I still struggle, don’t get me wrong). I chose to take the wedding ring off because I was using it as a symbol of my ability to be a great wife. I don’t need that anymore; I know I am a great person, wife, and mother with or without it. I hope you can all feel the same way as well.