Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

I have been playing around with this theory for some time now.  There are tons of reasons that you find yourself married to ‘a cheating spouse’ , but this one is not really discussed.  The concept is this – My husband cheated because he really is not ‘the one’. It’s funny that I write that because as I write it, I say to myself, is there really ‘the one’.  I don’t think I believe in ‘THE ONE’ but I darn sure believe in ‘not the one’ and that is what I would like to talk about.

If I get really, really honest with myself, there were some things about him that made us ‘off’.  I am attracted to men that take responsibility for their actions, and since he blamed everyone else for his issues, that really wasn’t attractive.  At the same time, he was a perfect gentlemen, always opened doors, paid for dinners, ect…so I let the issue slide.

We never really talk or laughed for hours, something was just out of sync with our conversations.  But he was so good with kids, and I really admired him for that, so I overlooked the issue.

Lastly, there was a relationship in the past where I was more in sync with the person (we broke up) than my cheating husband.

Now the hardest part to figure out is when you are dating, is the balance between just being too darn picky and accepting anything.  And the line is extremely difficult to draw – EXTREMELY.  But I think as women we tend to lean toward one side or the other.  For me, I tend to be more accepting and overlook things.  Now, looking at my life, I am not too happy about that.

And for the record, in no way am I condoning what my husband did because he might of been ‘the wrong one’, I am just thinking that it may of been a more difficult relationship because I was always trying to get him to understand, and with others, I am more understood.

Just some food for thought….Have a great weekend ladies!!