Comments on: My Cheating Husband and Me are Over, Ironically, I Am Less Stressed http://www.acheatinghusband.com/my-cheating-husband-and-me-are-over-ironically-i-am-less-stressed/ After the Affair Site for wives who have been through the painful situation of a cheating husband Tue, 07 Feb 2012 18:34:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: MS http://www.acheatinghusband.com/my-cheating-husband-and-me-are-over-ironically-i-am-less-stressed/comment-page-1/#comment-1702 MS Fri, 30 Jul 2010 21:32:19 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=246#comment-1702 Those feelings of not wanting to be fooled again are constantly nagging at me, thats for sure! My husband says he loves me, he always has, he never stopped......and part of me melts and believes him. Then I will have another moment where I look at him and wonder are you just a freakin' good actor / con-man and I wonder if he's still duping me, like he did this last year? I hate this! I hate this! Those feelings of not wanting to be fooled again are constantly nagging at me, thats for sure! My husband says he loves me, he always has, he never stopped……and part of me melts and believes him. Then I will have another moment where I look at him and wonder are you just a freakin’ good actor / con-man and I wonder if he’s still duping me, like he did this last year? I hate this! I hate this!

]]> By: Jewels http://www.acheatinghusband.com/my-cheating-husband-and-me-are-over-ironically-i-am-less-stressed/comment-page-1/#comment-1623 Jewels Fri, 14 May 2010 04:31:04 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=246#comment-1623 Hello Kat, When your husband cheats, it impacts you at a level where you never even thought it could. It is mentally overwhelming to the point where you sometimes get mad that your being so suspicious. Your thoughts are very normal in thinking that any women in his presence could be potential for him to cheat, even if it is family. Cheating Husbands is one of the HARDEST relationship situations to deal with (only other one that tops this is domestic violence). It is hard for exact reason that you stated, you don't want to be the fool, but you don't want to be the nagging, paranoid wife. In your situation, I feel that you really want to help yourself deal with these thoughts. I really would recommend going to therapy as a couple. There are things that he could do to help you feel more secure, and in talking with a therapist, they could help both of you through those things. But there is one thing I want you to know from me to you, if you work hard to bridge this, and you find out he is still cheating or cheated again, you are not the dumb wife that stayed, you are the strong wife that will leave the relationship knowing you gave it your best, the only dumb one would be your husband ruining a great marriage. Once you remove that block of I have to make sure he is not cheating, you will be on your road to recovery. That mental block is very very difficult to remove, because it is basically your heart on the line. I wish you the best, let me know how things go!! Hello Kat,

When your husband cheats, it impacts you at a level where you never even thought it could. It is mentally overwhelming to the point where you sometimes get mad that your being so suspicious. Your thoughts are very normal in thinking that any women in his presence could be potential for him to cheat, even if it is family. Cheating Husbands is one of the HARDEST relationship situations to deal with (only other one that tops this is domestic violence). It is hard for exact reason that you stated, you don’t want to be the fool, but you don’t want to be the nagging, paranoid wife. In your situation, I feel that you really want to help yourself deal with these thoughts. I really would recommend going to therapy as a couple. There are things that he could do to help you feel more secure, and in talking with a therapist, they could help both of you through those things. But there is one thing I want you to know from me to you, if you work hard to bridge this, and you find out he is still cheating or cheated again, you are not the dumb wife that stayed, you are the strong wife that will leave the relationship knowing you gave it your best, the only dumb one would be your husband ruining a great marriage. Once you remove that block of I have to make sure he is not cheating, you will be on your road to recovery. That mental block is very very difficult to remove, because it is basically your heart on the line. I wish you the best, let me know how things go!!

]]> By: Kat http://www.acheatinghusband.com/my-cheating-husband-and-me-are-over-ironically-i-am-less-stressed/comment-page-1/#comment-1622 Kat Fri, 14 May 2010 00:22:23 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=246#comment-1622 I found out my husband cheated about 3 months ago. We are trying to work things out. Like you did, I stress about everything. My sister came over today when I was at work to leave rent money. My husband was home alone, all I thought all day was that they were having sex. I am positive that my sister would not do this to me but the thought and dought is there. When he talks on the phone, I immediately ask "who was that?" I try to push all these feelings aside and not bring them up, but my feelings never go away. I even thought about bugging his cell so I could hear what he is talking about and with who. He says he would never hurt me again. I love him so much and want to believe that what he did was just a huge mistake but I continue to have bad thoughts everytime he is out of my sight. I do not want to be the nagging wife asking one million questions, but I also do not want to be the dumb wife that gets cheated on again. I found out my husband cheated about 3 months ago. We are trying to work things out. Like you did, I stress about everything. My sister came over today when I was at work to leave rent money. My husband was home alone, all I thought all day was that they were having sex. I am positive that my sister would not do this to me but the thought and dought is there. When he talks on the phone, I immediately ask “who was that?” I try to push all these feelings aside and not bring them up, but my feelings never go away. I even thought about bugging his cell so I could hear what he is talking about and with who. He says he would never hurt me again. I love him so much and want to believe that what he did was just a huge mistake but I continue to have bad thoughts everytime he is out of my sight. I do not want to be the nagging wife asking one million questions, but I also do not want to be the dumb wife that gets cheated on again.

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