Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

For me personally, the moment I decided last year that the marriage was over, I became less stressed. I had a husband who depended on me for everything. When he didn’t pay a bill, I stressed. When he was running late for work, I stressed. When he wanted something that he didn’t get, I stressed. (I know, I have issues!!) It took months after he cheating for me to come to the realization that it is over, but when I did, when I really told myself I am done, suddenly a weight lifted off my shoulder. I no longer have to worry for him. Now he never asked me to take on the burden of worrying and stressing on his behalf, but I did. And now that it’s over, I don’t have as much to worry about. Yes, my finances are a mess, don’t know where I am going to live, my kids will have to deal with mommy and daddy no longer being together, but I am less stressed. I think ultimately I am less stressed because even though things will be rough ahead, that road will be in my control. I don’t have to beg and hope that someone else will get it together, it’s all on me. And I can do ok when the future is mostly left up to my effort. I may be down BUT I am not out. I am going to come out on top, I don’t need a man to validate me or stress me out…lol. I got my work cut out for me in the next 2 years, but I am putting a plan in place that can and will work. I know part of me not being as stressed is that I am not at the point of making major decisions (divoce/lawyers, moving kids out, ect.) but for me it is ok to be in this state temporarily. I think sometimes we move too fast, thinking we have to do something now. I am doing thing according to my schedule, which says I am ok right now, and that is good enough for me (and should be good enough for you too!!). Good night ladies!!