Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Hello Ladies,

Hope you had a great weekend.  My weekend was filled with cleaning, watching the kids, more cleaning, and talking with my husband.  Saturday night, I was thinking really hard about the marriage, infidelity, and my happiness radar.  One thing popped out as a major issue, and surprisingly, it wasn’t the affair.  My issue was that my husband is not a good communicator.  If I was a really good person I would say that we do not communicate together well I talk to people at work, in the store, friends, family, and I can have a conversation.  Now not all conversations I leave fulfilled, but the people that I am close to, yes, I leave those conversations happier, relieved that I got something off my chest, or in a place where i feel good because I just learned something new.  The exception is with my husband.  I always leave angry, frustrated, or empty.  At ladies, even though I am just putting this together now, this was happening before the affair.  It is almost as if I had a blind eye to it or thought it was just a minor issue that can be easily fixed. I guess  this is why they say you should get to know yourself before you get into a relationship because that piece (leaving the conversation in a good place), means the world to me, and it didn’t realize how much until now.  Now I am at a point where I know it’s important, and I have communicated it to my husband.  Problem is, my husband isn’t the type to hear this type of thing, and go….great, however you want me to communicate, just tell me and I will try my best to do it (I thought that is how all cheating husbands are suppose to act after wifey finds out).  It will takes months for him to just ‘get it’, months for him to try my suggestion, and even after all that time, he might change or might not.  And really, I don’t want to force him to change but at the same time I know I can’t stay like this….