When you have young kids in such an environment of pain and sadness caused by cheating, it is really hard. Sometimes, I find myself getting way too frustrated at my kids, and really I am frustrated with my own situation. Kids are so young and innocent; they don’t know such pain, so it is hard for them to understand. So you try to put on a fake smile and a fake laugh so that they won’t worry. You try to sing songs and tickle them and play with them so they won’t be able to tell what is going on. But kids somehow know!! They know when me and my cheating husband are arguing, even though we think we hide it well. The kids know when I am upset, even thought I smile right in front of them. They will say things that make you feel really bad like “I want mommy and daddy to go’ or ‘can we all go together as a family’. I can think about these things but I can’t stress over it because I have to make the decision that is in her best interest, regardless of what the kids think. I really hope that one day both of my kids grow up having good relationships with both of the parents, even if we are apart. That’s all for now – I wish the best for you!
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I have recently reconciled with my ex husband who cheated with several women resulting in 2 children by 2 different women in 2 different countries. We divorced and I held it together for 11 years while he played around. I continued to pay the mortgage, go to work everyday, etc with half the income since he did nothing to help me, Ironically, my problem is not with him. These women destroyed everything He had and everything We had and once they bled him dry, dumped him. NOW, they want ME to pay child support. They seduced my husband, stole his sperm which legally and in God’s eyes belonged to me, had MY baby and now want ME to pay THEM for destroying my life. I guess if they had any brains or integrity they wouldn’t be in this position in the first place but the GALL! Don’t they fear God? I am on unemployment and my husband does nothing and I am currently recovering from bankruptcy caused by this woman stealing my husband and I have a payday loan because my bills are more than my unemployment. This Whore actually told my husband I should get ANOTHER payday loan and that she has seven! Every 2 weeks she gets 7 new payday loans so I should do the same. She also has 3 kids by 3 different men and was never married to any of them. I don’t live my life like her so why would I run my finances like her? When are the courts going to give rights to the wives? The innocent victims of con women who use youth, beauty, and their ovaries to trap a man, destroy marriages, and live on child support (while their kids go hungry, there is plenty of money for booze, drugs, and smokes) I’m ready Jesus. BEAM ME UP!
Hello Crystalchaos33,
It seems like you and your ex husband reconciled meaning you are on speaking terms or you are back together? I am not a lawyer so I am not sure how child support works, but if you don’t have any money I would imagine they can not get much from you. These two kids are not your kids, they are your ex husband’s kids – and unfortunately you stated he does nothing. This is sad all the way around, you have to recover financially, he is not supporting any of his kids, and the other women are taking it to court. The only thing I can say it I hope your ex-husband see’s the impact of what he has done.
crystalchaos33:
Are you back together? Better he be a better man after this. If nothing change in him after this, he is such a disgusting man. He never grow up and would probably repeat his mistakes.
Why aren’t your husband taking responsibility and why is he still in contact with that woman? It seems he doesn’t change at all! He should be working to help and cutting his connections to this woman. Is he so dumb as to make his life a burden to himself and others? He is so weak childish and unmanly… imagine letting his wife do all the work for him while just gives problems… and big ones at that. He should be a protector and a partner not a burden.
And what is with that woman. Why does she interferes with your decisions. Its your decision, she does not have any rights to that! Just ignore her rants… ranting back would only give her the satisfaction that she has disturbed you and would repeat it. Who does she think she is. She is the one who brings all this problems and she has the gall to say that.
And also bring the responsibility to your husband. He is not innocent here. He has the responsibility to right his wrongs. If he does not take responsibility to this ,better get him out of your life… at least financial life. He should learn how to be responsible.
And there is a mystery, how is he able to cheat to many women from several countries? Where does the money came from?
Also I have a fear that he might be a psychopath. These are the worst kind of people you’ll ever find.They might be fun to be with but they have no shame, fear, empathy and guilt. All their charms are false. They take advantage of other people. Some even are serial killer of rapist. They are the vilest people on earth.