You know, I love deep conversations, and I had one this weekend that was very valuable concerning Mr. Cheating Spouse. So I was talking to my girlfriend about relationships, and she is clearly much wiser than me. And I just met her, so she had no clue that my husband cheated on me. I told her that I weakened my ‘social life’ for my husband. And it wasn’t like he made me do it. It was just the little things he would say and do that made me feel bad for going out too much. If I went to a networking event, he would say “Why did you take so long to get home”. If I had a weird number on my phone, he would accuse me of cheating. Eventually, because I wanted to make him happy, I started going out less and less, until eventually I stopped going out altogether, but ironically, the accusations remained. Then my friend stated….
“Often times, especially in relationships, people project what they see in themselves onto others, so if your man is constantly accusing you of cheating, then that is because he might be cheating or might be afraid that he might cheat himself.”
I wanted to say, ‘You are a genius!’ that concept made perfect sense. After I thought about what she said and talked to my sister, she told me that Halle Berry’s old husband cheated on her (he claims he is a sex addict, wtf?), and that he would constantly accuse her of cheating. It’s frustrating because it is not a good feeling to be constantly accused of something that you did not do. Now to know that he was doing that to project and protect his own affair angers me. I wrote this post because I know many women experience the accusations from their husbands.
Have a good day and stay strong!!
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