Cheating, Viagra and Cialis oh my!!

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Caution: If you find a bottle of Viagra or Cialis in your husband’s closet and he did not take those pills before, this might be a sign that he is cheating.

If you go on any of the sites that give you advice about cheating husbands, they typically ask whether your husband is using a sexual performance drug. Why? In many cases, a man prides himself on being able to be sexually stimulated. When he engages with the other woman, he is going to do what it takes to show that he is “the man” and that he has still “got it.” Viagra and Cialis help achieve that goal.

I understand that some men really do have problems with becoming erect and both drugs help. But I get the feeling that many more men are using Viagra for recreational use (like cheating) than are using it to treat erectile dysfunction.

Ladies (and men), what do you think?

  • Sandy-Sue March 26, 2012, 11:46 AM

    I totally agree, Jewels. I found my husband’s Viagra prescription in his car (on my birthday, no less) almost 2 full months after I discovered his affair…..AND it had been re-filled only 1 month prior to me finding it. So he refilled it 1 month after I found out!…with the initial prescrip written about 3 months before that! And there was 1 pill left, out of 6!! So I guess he got his jollies on with her at least 5 more times after I found out!!!!
    He had NEVER had any ED problems at all with me!
    So as I confronted him about it….knowing my middle age husband must’ve had “issues” with his 24-year old GF, I told him “Oh, so when God was telling you you were some place you weren’t supposed to be — instead of stopping your ‘fun & games’ you go to our doctor and lie about your situation!” He never really told me how it came about — but I know in my heart-of-hearts that he told the doctor he was having problems due to the blood pressure meds he’d been put on about 8 or 9 months earlier!
    Men! It’s all about THAT and life’s little strokes!!! (little being the key word here) LOL ;)

    • Jewels March 30, 2012, 9:59 PM

      Gimlet – Very interesting, I went to the site briefly, and over stimulation makes sense. Imagine getting pills to give you stimulus on top of porn every night, I can see how it can get out of control.

      I have heard the same theory with women using dildos and other objects for self-stimulation. It feels great but some women say now when they have real sex, it’s not that great because if will never give the same feeling a machine will. But at the same time I think that there is an even greater stimulus that is caused without all the extra add-on’s and is built between two people that are very emotionally connected, some type of spiritual closeness that is stronger than any porn or stimulus. At least the thought sounds exciting lol. Thanks for sharing!

      Sandy-Sue – how are you! Man you are good, you calculated the pill, the prescription date right down to the number of times he did it lol! I keep hearing about women finding Viagra in the car, that must be a ‘man hiding place’ secret or something – well not anymore, all the wives check your husband’s car for – the pill. Take Care and let me know how things are going for you.

  • Gimlet March 26, 2012, 2:09 PM

    I too found out about my husbands perscription by accident. I did know he sometimes had some difficulty with ED but it was not a big deal to me. I have since learned of Ed being caused by porn addiction and now wonder if his problem was from his blood pressure meds or from his porn use which was far more out of control than I had realized. When I found out he had cheated he came to me and tried to tell me about his addiction to porn and masturbation but I said so what, lots of guys do that what does that have to do with your cheating? I have since learned there is a silent epidemic going on with even teens and very young men suffering from Ed due to porn use. Our brains are not meant for that much stimulation and we are literaly rewiring our brains with internet porn. I don’t mean to promote the site but your brain on porn.com really explains this well. I wonder if women are experiencing the same thing. Recently I attended a seminar on reading at my 11 year olds school and found out that our brains have no area dedicated to reading (which is why so many children have trouble with it).As we as a species are learning to read we are actually creating an area behind the right or left ear that is dedicated to reading and the thought is that over time we will evolve into a species that is born with that area. Fascinating, anyway as with all addictions it is progressive and you will need more and more stimulation to acheive the dopamine high thus what starts out as what we think of as a harmless activity for pleasure becomes a compulsion and leads to cheating.I will say again this does not excuse our spouces actions but it may help us if we choose to stay together and heal. Also I think people need to be made aware of these dangers to prevent the harm it causes.