Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

So I went to church today to support my niece singing.  While I really came to support my niece, I couldn’t help hear the sermon.  The preacher was talking about how too many people in life live as if it was all about ‘you’.  The whole point was saying whatever your going through, try to look at it holistically, versus always looking at it from the standpoint of you, you you.  I honestly can say that after my husband had an affair, it has been all about me.  I haven’t really looking into how a divorce would impact the family, and I don’t want to look at it right now, too much to think about.  I am really focusing on my hurt and pain of the affair.  Eventually I will become less selfish, but not now!!  But on a serious note, when anyone makes a serious life decision, especially if you have children, you have to take a look at how your decision will impact the whole.  Just like my father told me, once you have kids, it’s not just about you. By the way, why haven’t I told my father about the affair, yet everyone else knows?  But that is another issue.  That being said, it may be better for you to leave, because if you stay, you are meaner, more stressed, and your anger is coming through to your kids.  At the same time, you might want to stay, keep your family together, and try to work it out with your husband.  The thing you have to remember is not to make a decision right away, wait until you get through your grieving period because you don’t want to make a decision out of anger.  Also, remember, no matter what decision you make at the moment, that is the right decision for you. And you always have a right to change your mind.  Stay strong ladies…………