I am a little frustrated today with the affair. I know I have to eventually make a decision about my cheating spouse and I am in denial, trying not to think about it, but it keeps popping up. As you know, my husband and I still live in the same house. I really want to be a family, I see how much it means to our kids, and I don’t want to hurt them. Here is a later article that I posted on Cheating and Kids.
In the back of my mind I know that my cheating husband and I can’t live like this forever. Maybe we can live as roommates under the same house? My husband annoys the hell out of me sometimes and does things that piss me off. So why do I stay? For the kids, it is better financially, and because my husband helps with the kids. And lastly, I am scarred of the thought of raising my two kids alone, without family close by. He actually will change diapers, feed the kids dinner, etc. I don’t want to lose my help lol!!! At the same time, like my girlfriend said, I have to make a choice and see if the ‘help’ is worth the frustration. For instance, my husband tries at time to be affectionate and I am not feeling it. It actually really angers me because he thinks we can just kiss and make up and doesn’t understand why I am rejecting him? Get a clue – how can I be affectionate when you committed the ultimate betrayal? My husband also still tries to monitor my activities, his little cheating behind is thinking that I am going to cheat – that is his problem, not mine. But every time I go somewhere, he makes an issue of it…NOOOO…. Ladies, I know I cannot live like this. I feel like I am sacrificing myself for the kids and slowly killing myself in the process, I just wish I could wish it all away, but I can’t. I know one thing for sure, things will get better, I will get stronger, and I will recover.
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i also know what you feel i have a husband that is abusive he says things and do things to make you feel worthless i see a therapyst and he makes me feel like i shouldnt waste my time yeah i cheated on him when he was locked up but he left me alone cuz he went to see his ex and she locked him up if he would of stayed at home nothing would of happen and what made it worst i found i was pregnant yes i had the baby he wanted to raise her and wanted me to give her his name i said no he will never be there for her he has never bought her anything xmas passed and not even a dollar i found his my space and he was cheating on me now its to the point that he dont live with me if you want more on the story email me
It really is sad when men are abusive verbally and/or physically. Although my husband never outright put me down or hit me (lol..he just cheated), my previous boyfriend did and it was horrid and that really messed me up. Then I met my husband. Sometimes I wonder if since i never really dealt with the abuse from the past relationship how it may of effected the current one. I am glad that you are raising your little one, that must be tough with no support. Best of luck in your situation, I wish the best for you and I know that in time you will make the choice that is right for you and your daughter.
Oh Gosh, this blog just talked about me perfectly! I feel the same way! stuck!!!!
We are “roomated” right now. Mostly for the kds sake, but for financial reasons along with the slight fact that there may still be hope for us yet? IDK….ugh!!!!
But I hear ya! My kids know, they know the truth just no details. My 13 yr old hates him and my 9 yr od has unconditional love through and through. we are trying to live a “normal” life but It is still a knife in my heart. he doesn’t gt why some days i am fine and others I don’t wanna be in the same room with him. I think he thinks we can just “kiss and make up” as well! And that is oh so frusttating to me! He still swears to this date (this has been going on since Feb that I knew and since Dec when they started to talk) that there has NEVER been a physical raltionship ( there probaly was)!! However I only have proof of them talking and texting (he has never been un accounted for).
But like your husband he is a great “helper” and does a ton around the house (always has).
he is an amazinf father (the best I have ever known. I just don’t know if I can recover.
Yes, I feel you!! I never knew what to actually call our situation, now I know we are ‘roommates’. I actually don’t understand why husbands think this is a simple fix, it is so complicated and emotional, there is no kiss and make up. And the kids, isn’t is just heartbreaking to even think about the fact that your kids might not see daddy as much? My heart goes out to you. I hope that you and your husband consider marriage therapy, if both of you are willing. Take care…..