Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Part I of this series dealt with the impact of finding out your partner cheated as it relates to your self esteem. Part II actually deals with you and your relationship. The second biggest impact is trust.

When your husband cheats, from the moment you find out, you question everything. Your trust as it pertains to him goes out the window. You not only question the cheating and what he tells you about it. You question everything he has ever told you. It doesn’t matter if it is weeks or months after the affair, he could tell you he is going to the store and there is a moment where you are going to think to yourself ‘is he really going to the store’. For some, that might be a split-second. For others, it might be go on in your head for a long time. In any event, the fact remains that you do not trust him, and building that trust is the hardest thing to do once you find out your husband cheated? Why is it so hard. There are ton’s of reasons, but for starters, some women can’t get over the fact that your own husband could lie to you over and over and over again. How could he lie to me so easily. Then you start thinking, is our marriage built on a lie, what other white lies did he tell? Do I even know this person. Then you start beating yourself up, I don’t even trust myself anymore.

The trust that is broken is so multidimensional, which is why it is extremely hard and time consuming to rebuild. He has to prove that he is trustworthy again. You both have to rebuild trust back into the relationship. And you have to work on rebuilding trust within yourself.

This is a major impact of finding out your partner cheated.

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