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Impact of finding out your partner cheated – Part I
Hello everyone,
I am doing a 3 part series on the topic of the impact of cheating. Unless you have gone through the pain of finding out your husband is cheating, it is difficult to describe the level of pain that you will experience on so many different levels. Today, I am going to discuss just 1 of the impacts. This impact is very dear to me, it is in my opinion the most important part of a women’s recovery when she finds out her husband has cheated. It is the thing that if you don’t recovery and figure out how to overcome this obstacle, it can lead to years of pain and depression. And that is a women’s self esteem. Finding out your husband has cheated on you has a tremendous impact on a women’s self esteem. It really messes with your mind in all sorts of crazy ways. On the one hand, you feel that your husband cheated because you were not sexy enough or fun enough or pretty enough. Those thoughts are seriously enough to drive you crazy. Then your self esteem is impacted when and if you try to work on the relationship, because there is that voice in your ear that says, ‘are you that weak that your going to stay and put up with his behavior, are you not strong enough to leave’? It’s like a little voice in your ear that won’t go away!! Oh…and let’s not even talk about the thought that you feel like your now in a failed marriage.
Your self esteem is impacted by all of these thoughts. For some people, they can easily overcome, but for most, this is a serious issue. I am so surprised that most books (yes I have read a good number of them), focus on healing the relationship. Hardly any focus on restoring a person’s self esteem as an individual. I can’t give love to anyone and restore a relationship when my self esteem is shot. I decided my next ebook will be on this very topic. Forget about everything else and let’s focus on restoring confidence and getting that shine and energy back that you have as a beautiful women. Restoring a women’s self esteem after an affair is a topic I am passionate about, I am going through it now, and I hope to help others through their journey. Part II of the post will step into the next major impact of finding out your partner cheated. Till next time!!
Jewels
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Apr 14, 20109:27 PM
Thanks Marilee for your comment. It is really tough when your husband is well respected, because you really are blindsided. My husband is well respected as well, and for some reason, I thought that since everyone else thought so highly of him, that he wouldn’t dare do something so low and disrespectful, and boy was I wrong. I just hate how their selfishness causes life as we know it to change forever. This event literally shattered my self esteem. And if I can see one good thing out of this situation, it is that I am learning how to rebuild my self esteem literally from the ground up. Every day I am getting stronger and stronger through my personal process. I am still on my journey, but once I fully regain my confidence, I hope to share a new chapter in my life filled with a full sense of self. I know it’s tough for you right now, but hang in there.
Jul 9, 20107:34 AM
I am in so much pain from my cheating spouse that my heart hurts and i feel like i can’t breathe.it is worse in public every couple i see makes me cry.I had a total hip replacement and when i came home from hospital he had cleaned me out and left me with no help to live with this other woman.I am destroyed.
Jul 9, 20109:21 AM
Sue, you are in such a great deal of pain right. Your husband left at a time where you need him to be there for you, so you can focus on healing. You may feel like your destroyed, but you are not. Through this experience, you will have an opportunity to rebuild your life and your identity from the ground up. Your in too much pain to see it right now, but this can be a good thing. Right now your in a grieving stage, where the pain hurts like a knife. The key is to remember that you are not alone, you will recover from this situation, and the best of your life is yet to come. One chapter is closing, eventually another one will open. It’s ok to cry, this is one of the most traumatic experiences you will go through. BUT I believe in you and there are thousands of women who overcome this tragedy, you will be one of them, I just know it. Take care, get some rest, and get some fresh air as well (even though you probably don’t feel like it).
Jul 9, 20109:22 AM
Sue, you are in such a great deal of pain right. Your husband left at a time where you need him to be there for you, so you can focus on healing. You may feel like your destroyed, but you are not. Through this experience, you will have an opportunity to rebuild your life and your identity from the ground up. You are in too much pain to see it right now, but this can be a good thing. Right now you are in a grieving stage, where the pain hurts like a knife. The key is to keep telling yourself that you will recover from this situation, and the best of your life is yet to come. One chapter is closing, eventually another one will open. It’s ok to cry, this is one of the most traumatic experiences you will go through. BUT I believe in you and there are thousands of women who overcome this tragedy, you will be one of them, I just know it. Take care, get some rest, and get some fresh air as well (even though you probably don’t feel like it).
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7:53 PM
I appreciate your efforts in making this E-book free and so accessible. I was completely blindsided to discover that my husband (who is so well respected in his work and community) had been carrying on with MANY internet sluts, but had quite a few in person times. He travels w/o me at times. I “caught” him before Thanksgiving, 2009, like Tiger’s wife….a fishy # on the cell phone. I called the bitch and life has exploded here.