Choosing to stay with your cheating husband after he committed adultery is very common.
There is no such thing as staying in the marriage or leaving; there are a couple shades of grey mixed into the decision. The truth is, some women stay, and some women leave, and your recovery after the affair isn’t about staying or leaving but your attitude towards staying or leaving.
Many women have this ingrained subconscious philosophy that if you stay after your husband cheats, then you are one pitiful weak woman. Nothing could be further from the truth. It takes an incredibly strong woman to stay married after her husband has cheated, to endure the constant triggers, to still be the wife, the mother, and keep the family together. It’s hard to do that, but many stay. Now, if you stay with the attitude that you are one strong woman and are working with your husband to rebuild the marriage, that’s great! But if you stay because you feel trapped, you will suffer greatly within your own marriage. In fact, a lot of women tell me they stayed (for various reasons), but they don’t feel that they are strong, confident women anymore. If you feel this way, it’s time to re-evaluate the situation.
Maybe it is time to take a day or two off from being a mother, a wife, and/or a businesswoman, and just be alone and think about your emotions and thoughts. I think you will be surprised at what comes to the surface. At the end of the day, if you stay married, great, but try not to compromise the strong, confident woman who is inside of you. You are choosing to stay, versus feeling trapped into staying.
The same is true if you decide to leave. Leave with confidence that you are leaving a situation that is no longer beneficial to you as a person. You are leaving in order to give yourself a better life.
I will not judge you either way, women that stay married are strong and women that leave are strong as well, it all depends on your particular situation and your own attitude. Stay strong, if you decide to stay or leave, you have a support system on this site.