Comments on: Husband After the Affair – I Want to Work Things Out http://www.acheatinghusband.com/i-want-you-back-after-the-affair/ After the Affair Site for wives who have been through the painful situation of a cheating husband Sun, 05 Feb 2012 18:16:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jewels http://www.acheatinghusband.com/i-want-you-back-after-the-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-4889 Jewels Fri, 15 Jul 2011 03:48:34 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=47#comment-4889 Hello Rachael, Sorry to hear about your situation, I think your husband really has some issues with the online sites. I really think you gave it your best shot and you can leave the marriage knowing that you did your part. You gave him the option of counseling, which he needs. But unfortunately, he might not think that he has a problem. For you to try to hook up with another women the night before your wedding, he needs counseling to deal with some issues. But you can force him, and it is not your job to do so. As far as the divorce, I would do some research. I am not a lawyer and can't advise you, but a good lawyer might be able to protect your assets that you had prior to the marriage. You have two things in your favor, adultery (if you can prove he had sex with another women, judges tend to side with the other person more), and the duration of the marriage (since it was very short, again, I think a judge would side with you concerning your life savings). Again, this is just what I think, I would talk to a lawyer in your state. I know your in a dark cloud of 'how could he do this' 'how could i have not known' 'who is this man I married', but trust me, there is a brighter future for you. Take Care. Hello Rachael,

Sorry to hear about your situation, I think your husband really has some issues with the online sites. I really think you gave it your best shot and you can leave the marriage knowing that you did your part. You gave him the option of counseling, which he needs. But unfortunately, he might not think that he has a problem. For you to try to hook up with another women the night before your wedding, he needs counseling to deal with some issues. But you can force him, and it is not your job to do so. As far as the divorce, I would do some research. I am not a lawyer and can’t advise you, but a good lawyer might be able to protect your assets that you had prior to the marriage. You have two things in your favor, adultery (if you can prove he had sex with another women, judges tend to side with the other person more), and the duration of the marriage (since it was very short, again, I think a judge would side with you concerning your life savings). Again, this is just what I think, I would talk to a lawyer in your state. I know your in a dark cloud of ‘how could he do this’ ‘how could i have not known’ ‘who is this man I married’, but trust me, there is a brighter future for you. Take Care.

]]> By: Racheal http://www.acheatinghusband.com/i-want-you-back-after-the-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-4876 Racheal Thu, 14 Jul 2011 15:46:17 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=47#comment-4876 I don't think my husband wants to be alone either. I found out he was cheatig only a month after we where married and it was with multiple women from craigslist. One it the ow was even twice our age. What hurt most of all this was that he was planning on seein one of them the night before our weddig but couldn't because I made him stat with me. After everything unfolded I stood back and reevaluated everything and wanted to work things out because of love and I believed he wanted to fix things by going to church seeking counseling and being a better man. Well 5 months later I bought him red handed. Only this time I was never able to put that gut feeling that something was wrong away. So I posted a fake ad on craigslist and like I expected he replied and agreed to meet up. He didn't find out That I set it up until I came to his door to say hi. During that time he was out of work and I was supporting him and paying for his school which was his front for his cheating. He was still seeing the ow he wanted to meet up with during our wedding week and had been talking to her for three months before I caught him, and was felling her we never got married. And come to find out he had multiple email acounts and online dating accounts. He. claims he never touched anyone but how am I going to believe that someone going at this for so long never touched anyone. It's been 5 months since that's happened and ive been sittig back waiting to see how much this marriage means to him and what he will do to save it, and sadly I've seen nothing but broken promises and excuses. After a one month ultimatum for him to seek concealing expired I am now ready to move on with my life because I'm tired of feeling suspicious, angry, and depressed. Feelings which are a result of him and his laziness to do anything. And the next part of going to see a lawyer is going to be the toughest thing I'll be doing in my life so far. What I hate about all of this is the fact that he's going to take half of my savings, 401k, and everything I worked so hard for. I don’t think my husband wants to be alone either. I found out he was cheatig only a month after we where married and it was with multiple women from craigslist. One it the ow was even twice our age. What hurt most of all this was that he was planning on seein one of them the night before our weddig but couldn’t because I made him stat with me. After everything unfolded I stood back and reevaluated everything and wanted to work things out because of love and I believed he wanted to fix things by going to church seeking counseling and being a better man. Well 5 months later I bought him red handed. Only this time I was never able to put that gut feeling that something was wrong away. So I posted a fake ad on craigslist and like I expected he replied and agreed to meet up. He didn’t find out That I set it up until I came to his door to say hi. During that time he was out of work and I was supporting him and paying for his school which was his front for his cheating. He was still seeing the ow he wanted to meet up with during our wedding week and had been talking to her for three months before I caught him, and was felling her we never got married. And come to find out he had multiple email acounts and online dating accounts. He. claims he never touched anyone but how am I going to believe that someone going at this for so long never touched anyone. It’s been 5 months since that’s happened and ive been sittig back waiting to see how much this marriage means to him and what he will do to save it, and sadly I’ve seen nothing but broken promises and excuses. After a one month ultimatum for him to seek concealing expired I am now ready to move on with my life because I’m tired of feeling suspicious, angry, and depressed. Feelings which are a result of him and his laziness to do anything. And the next part of going to see a lawyer is going to be the toughest thing I’ll be doing in my life so far. What I hate about all of this is the fact that he’s going to take half of my savings, 401k, and everything I worked so hard for.

]]> By: MS http://www.acheatinghusband.com/i-want-you-back-after-the-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-1703 MS Fri, 30 Jul 2010 21:49:17 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=47#comment-1703 I think my husband doesn't want to be alone.....period. His past history reflects that. I even told him I felt he was only wanting to work it out with me because the other woman didn't want him now because she found out he was married and he'd been lying to her all this time (funny thing, he found out today that she had been seeing other men while with him and was on dating sites still looking for someone else.....that made me feel a little better today...LOL!) I think my husband doesn’t want to be alone…..period. His past history reflects that. I even told him I felt he was only wanting to work it out with me because the other woman didn’t want him now because she found out he was married and he’d been lying to her all this time (funny thing, he found out today that she had been seeing other men while with him and was on dating sites still looking for someone else…..that made me feel a little better today…LOL!)

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