While I was listening to the radio yesterday, a husband called in complaining that his wife is totally different now that she is pregnant. I almost felt like he was using her fussiness to make a good case for cheating. His biggest complaint was, basically, “During the first pregnancy she did not act like this.”
As a wife who has been pregnant twice, I felt the need to write about this topic. Below are four things that married men should know about cheating on your wife while she’s pregnant.
1. As a husband, you have no idea how being pregnant feel like. Sometimes, you feel worse than crap, not for a day or even a month, but for the entire pregnancy. My first pregnancy was pretty easy on me. But during the second, I was so depressed I didn’t even want to leave the house. At times like these, you really need your husband to be supportive, not to go and cheat.
2. It is really selfish to cheat on your wife while she is pregnant. I remember not being able to sleep because my husband was not home and didn’t come home until 3 a.m. I remember him not answering his phone and worrying that something terrible had happened. So instead of me resting and focusing on bringing a new baby into the world, I am up wondering why my husband is going out so late.
3. Men, please don’t believe the TV hype that women are always horny when they are pregnant. Every woman is different. Telling your wife that she should want to have sex all the time because ‘pregnant women are more sexual’ will not gain you cool points.
4. If your wife finds out you cheated while she is pregnant, she will be devastated. When she’s pregnant, she is totally helpless and insecure already. Have patience with your wife, stay committed. Things will change once the baby comes into the world.
I understand your wife is not acting in the same way that she was before she was pregnant. However, marriage is often an act of discipline and communication. Marriage is supposed to be for better or worse. Focus on supporting your wife for nine months, versus creating reasons in your mind that you should cheat.
Unfortunately, it is very common for men to cheat while the wife is pregnant which is the worst time to have an affair.