When I was listening to the radio yesterday, a guy called in complaining that his wife is totally different now that she is pregnant. I almost felt like he was using her fussiness to make a good case for cheating. His biggest complaint was, basically, “During the first pregnancy she did not act like this.”
Okay. As someone who’s had two babies, I need to address this. Listen up, men. Below are four things you need to know about cheating on your wife while she’s pregnant.
1. First, you’ve never been pregnant, so you don’t understand what it feels like. Sometimes, you feel like shit, not for a day or even a month, but for the entire pregnancy. My first pregnancy was pretty easy on me. But during the second, I was so depressed I didn’t even want to leave the house. At times like these, you really need your husband to be supportive, not go and cheat.
2. It is really selfish to cheat on your wife while she is pregnant. I remember not being able to sleep because my husband was not home and didn’t come home until 3 a.m. I remember him not answering his phone and worrying that something terrible had happened. So instead of me resting and focusing on bringing a new baby into the world, I am up wondering what my husband is going out so late.
3. Men, don’t believe the TV hype that women are always horny when they are pregnant. Every woman is different. Telling your wife that she should want to have sex all the time if she’s not up to it will not make her feel good.
4. If your wife finds out you cheated while she is pregnant, she will be devastated. When she’s pregnant, she is totally helpless and insecure already. Putting your wife in this position while she is carrying your child is cowardly.
It’s lame to cheat because your wife is not acting in the same way that she was before she was pregnant. Marriage is supposed to be for better or worse. If you can’t tough it out for nine months, why did you get married in the first place?
Unfortunately, it is very common for men to cheat while the wife is pregnant, which is the worst time to have an affair.