Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

This sucks.  I expect after an event like this that my husband would be warm and understanding, easy to communicate with, and most of all, humble.  Instead of that, what I get is a huge communication GAP with my husband that had an affair.  Let me explain.  Have you ever had a conversation with someone and you went into the conversation with every positive intention imaginable.  You are planning to open your heart and share your feelings.  Then something happens and your like WTF?  I am now more angrier and frustrated than when I first started.  I go to talk to my husband when I am stress or want to get something off my chest, what I leave with is being blamed, being accused of doing things, and feeling worse after the conversation than before.  This is not a new item for us.  My husband and I have had this issue and since it is not a major deal, i thought it was something that could easily be worked on.  Boy was I wrong.  In order for your husband to work on something, he has to see his fault in it, which is the problem.  In some way, I think this breakdown in communication contributed to the affair.  When I can’t talk to you, and I always leave more frustrated after the conversation, I get mad.  I secretly start to get bitter because I feel like your my partner and I can’t even get stress relief when I talk to you, all I get is more stress.  So what happens is when it’s time to go to bed and do the dirty, I am pissed off.  Pissed off that you want to have sex and I can’t even have a quality conversation with you.  So then I reject.  I don’t do it out of revenge, it is almost subconscious. That is my theory, he still didn’t have to cheat!!