Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Hello Ladies,

I was reading a book today called Toddler 411 because I can’t control my 3 year old daughter.  One thing that they mentioned really made me think about my cheating spouse and my past relationships.  The author stated that it is not really ideal to be raised in an environment where the parents call all the shots.  The old ‘do it because I said so’ and ‘if you don’t do what I say, I will make you via spanking, ect’.  I am the parent and I should have total control.  Well this author stated that the reason that it is not ideal to raise kids in that manner is that they end up having bad self esteem and bad relationships.  Now I have hear the self esteem one before, but I never thought my childhood upbringing had anything to do with bad relationships!!

I had parents like I stated above.  I have no bitterness towards them for that, it is VERY hard to raise kids and the fact that I am fairly functional is great.  What is interesting is that most of my relationships (past and present) have been pretty bad.  My 2 long term relationships were Mr. Physically Abusive (yes, I would have to create another blog to explain that one) and now this relationship/marriage, called Mr. Cheating Husband.  I ask myself why?  Why do I get involved with men that end up not treating me right at all?  I don’t know the answer to that.  While it would be great to put all the blame on my parents, I will not.  I think it may have something to do with it, which is interesting.  If anything it encourages me to be more mindful of how I raise my daughter in hopes that in some small, small way, I teach her not to fall into the exact same traps that I have fell into.  That’s all for now, have a great week!!