Another cheating spouse story. I have watched this terrible and sad story of John and Elizabeth Edwards. I really wish that Elizabeth got out of the relationship sooner. It’s almost as if I feel she wanted things to work out so bad even if she herself felt miserable. As women, we do this all the time. We sacrifice of our own happiness for others. I think Elizabeth did the best she could to support John after the incident, but like most cheating spouses, he couldn’t stop lying to her. He didn’t tell her the whole story. How painful is that to support John even after the affair only to find out that he continued to lie?
On the Today Show, Elizabeth said that John is not the same person she married. I am glad she realized this. This is a pivotal point in a relationship. Once your husband cheats, you have to realize that you’re both going to change (yes both of you). It’s a traumatic event and you never know what type of person you are going to get when it’s all said and done. One husband can come out of the situation more loving and grateful than even, another husband can become vindictive and selfish.
At a certain point and time you have to evaluate what type of person he has become (and of course evaluate the changes within yourself), and see if it’s still a good fit. It’s a hard decision, but in Elizabeth’s case, I am glad she finally sees that John is not right for her at this stage in her life. I know she has cancer and she really needs to be in a loving supporting environment, with positive energy. Even if that is alone, it’s better than being around negativity and lies. I keep telling myself that I will read her book; I got to get around doing it. If anyone has read it, let me know your thoughts!!
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