Comments on: Cheating Spouse Experience: A Blessing in the Storm http://www.acheatinghusband.com/cheating-spouse-experience-a-blessing-in-the-storm/ After the Affair Site for wives who have been through the painful situation of a cheating husband Tue, 07 Feb 2012 18:34:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jewels http://www.acheatinghusband.com/cheating-spouse-experience-a-blessing-in-the-storm/comment-page-1/#comment-2953 Jewels Mon, 28 Feb 2011 12:45:16 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=223#comment-2953 Hello Marcy, You are in the devastation stage that most women go through after the affair. Your not going to be able to see the blessing right now because I can tell your grief is overpowering all other thoughts, and that is ok, you have just experienced a very traumatic experience, there is no other more difficult situation to address in marriage other than the death of a spouse. All of these years you were worth something, or else he would of left you a long time ago. Something kept him wanting to be married to you, and it was probably your character and your big heart. That is why you did not know, you didn't even think of him in that manner, so don't for a second feel bad that you did not know he was living with someone else for a year, your only crime was love and trust for your husband. The next few months will be an emotional rollercoaster for you, but almost everyone on this blog has been through it. It seems like your husband is thinking about him, and it's time for you to make sure you think about you (as much as you can, I know it's hard). Marcy, you will get through this and you will come out a stronger women. Hello Marcy,

You are in the devastation stage that most women go through after the affair. Your not going to be able to see the blessing right now because I can tell your grief is overpowering all other thoughts, and that is ok, you have just experienced a very traumatic experience, there is no other more difficult situation to address in marriage other than the death of a spouse. All of these years you were worth something, or else he would of left you a long time ago. Something kept him wanting to be married to you, and it was probably your character and your big heart. That is why you did not know, you didn’t even think of him in that manner, so don’t for a second feel bad that you did not know he was living with someone else for a year, your only crime was love and trust for your husband. The next few months will be an emotional rollercoaster for you, but almost everyone on this blog has been through it. It seems like your husband is thinking about him, and it’s time for you to make sure you think about you (as much as you can, I know it’s hard). Marcy, you will get through this and you will come out a stronger women.

]]> By: marcy http://www.acheatinghusband.com/cheating-spouse-experience-a-blessing-in-the-storm/comment-page-1/#comment-2948 marcy Sun, 27 Feb 2011 17:27:56 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=223#comment-2948 I AM TRYING REAL HARD TO FIND BLESSINGS IN THIS MESS. I AM 46 MY CHEATING HUSBAND LEFT ME FOR A YOUNGER WOMAN WHEN I FOUND OUT HE HAD BEEN LIVING WITH HER FOR OVER A YEAR THE WHOLE TOWN KNEW BUT NOBOBY WANTED TO HURT ME WITH THE TRUTH BECAUSE I DID NOT DESERVE THAT KIND OF NEWS. YESTERDAY I FOUND OUT THAT HE IS MOVING INTO OUR HOME WITH HER AND NOW I AM DIEING WITH GRIEF TO THINK THAT ALL THESE YEARS I WAS WORTH NOTHING TO HIM. PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME SOMETHING I AM TRYING REAL HARD TO FIND BLESSINGS IN THIS MESS. I AM 46 MY CHEATING HUSBAND LEFT ME FOR A YOUNGER WOMAN WHEN I FOUND OUT HE HAD BEEN LIVING WITH HER FOR OVER A YEAR THE WHOLE TOWN KNEW BUT NOBOBY WANTED TO HURT ME WITH THE TRUTH BECAUSE I DID NOT DESERVE THAT KIND OF NEWS. YESTERDAY I FOUND OUT THAT HE IS MOVING INTO OUR HOME WITH HER AND NOW I AM DIEING WITH GRIEF TO THINK THAT ALL THESE YEARS I WAS WORTH NOTHING TO HIM. PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME SOMETHING

]]> By: Jewels http://www.acheatinghusband.com/cheating-spouse-experience-a-blessing-in-the-storm/comment-page-1/#comment-2735 Jewels Sun, 09 Jan 2011 04:19:52 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=223#comment-2735 Hello Edward, I understand your point, but one critical thing is missing. If you have needs and haven't had sex with your wife, then maybe you need to talk to your wife and if you can't work it out, divorce. Even if you have an arrangement in marriage where you talk to other women, that is fine, as long as BOTH of you agree with that arrangement. For most women it's not the sex that really messes us up, it the sex AND the constant lying to our face over and over again that is very hurtful. If your married to someone, you would expect that the both of you could have an honest conversation. I understand you haven't had sex in years, but I don't think that gives you a pass to cheat. Also, 'anything she doesn't know or find out'....the problem is most of us eventually find out, and it is totally devastating on so many levels. Hello Edward,

I understand your point, but one critical thing is missing. If you have needs and haven’t had sex with your wife, then maybe you need to talk to your wife and if you can’t work it out, divorce. Even if you have an arrangement in marriage where you talk to other women, that is fine, as long as BOTH of you agree with that arrangement. For most women it’s not the sex that really messes us up, it the sex AND the constant lying to our face over and over again that is very hurtful. If your married to someone, you would expect that the both of you could have an honest conversation. I understand you haven’t had sex in years, but I don’t think that gives you a pass to cheat. Also, ‘anything she doesn’t know or find out’….the problem is most of us eventually find out, and it is totally devastating on so many levels.

]]> By: Edward http://www.acheatinghusband.com/cheating-spouse-experience-a-blessing-in-the-storm/comment-page-1/#comment-2733 Edward Sat, 08 Jan 2011 17:02:59 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=223#comment-2733 Unfortunately, we can't stop the clock from ticking away and as we get older we seem to want more. I haven't had sex with my wife in years but I haven't fool around (although I have needs too).Who is it for anyone to judge if one find something he/she now want to spend time with. I can only say, 'Be safe." Anything he/she doesn't know or find out, more power for you and you can make it last as long as you want. Unfortunately, we can’t stop the clock from ticking away and as we get older we seem to want more. I haven’t had sex with my wife in years but I haven’t fool around (although I have needs too).Who is it for anyone to judge if one find something he/she now want to spend time with. I can only say, ‘Be safe.” Anything he/she doesn’t know or find out, more power for you and you can make it last as long as you want.

]]> By: Jewels http://www.acheatinghusband.com/cheating-spouse-experience-a-blessing-in-the-storm/comment-page-1/#comment-1718 Jewels Thu, 12 Aug 2010 01:22:35 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=223#comment-1718 Kady, We are in this together, we might not know each other, but spiritually, we are better knowing that our journeys are the same, and that we are not alone. And while I haven't completely recovered, I am at a MUCH better place than when I started, and I promise, you will be as well. For me it really started when I changed my mentality from being 'trapped' to 'empowered'. I started to see that I actually do have options, and those options were not even a consideration before the cheating, but now it is my reality, and you know what, that is ok with me. Start to look at the possibilities outside of the life you planned. Even though it will be different now (weather you stay or leave), different could turn out to be the best thing for you. Take Care..... Kady,
We are in this together, we might not know each other, but spiritually, we are better knowing that our journeys are the same, and that we are not alone. And while I haven’t completely recovered, I am at a MUCH better place than when I started, and I promise, you will be as well. For me it really started when I changed my mentality from being ‘trapped’ to ‘empowered’. I started to see that I actually do have options, and those options were not even a consideration before the cheating, but now it is my reality, and you know what, that is ok with me. Start to look at the possibilities outside of the life you planned. Even though it will be different now (weather you stay or leave), different could turn out to be the best thing for you. Take Care…..

]]> By: kady http://www.acheatinghusband.com/cheating-spouse-experience-a-blessing-in-the-storm/comment-page-1/#comment-1716 kady Sun, 08 Aug 2010 08:11:02 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=223#comment-1716 As i read your story I cry because mine is so similar I feel stuck I don't know how to get out and I don't know how to move on. As i read your story I cry because mine is so similar I feel stuck I don’t know how to get out and I don’t know how to move on.

]]> By: Jewels http://www.acheatinghusband.com/cheating-spouse-experience-a-blessing-in-the-storm/comment-page-1/#comment-1691 Jewels Tue, 27 Jul 2010 02:39:05 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=223#comment-1691 Hello kc, You seem to be in a tough situation. Be very careful with abusive men, seriously. Cheating is one thing. Abuse can become dangerous to your health. I really hope your in a position to get some support in this situation for you and your son. I will be thinking about you. Be safe above all. -Jewels Hello kc,

You seem to be in a tough situation. Be very careful with abusive men, seriously. Cheating is one thing. Abuse can become dangerous to your health. I really hope your in a position to get some support in this situation for you and your son. I will be thinking about you. Be safe above all.

-Jewels

]]> By: kc http://www.acheatinghusband.com/cheating-spouse-experience-a-blessing-in-the-storm/comment-page-1/#comment-1689 kc Sun, 25 Jul 2010 13:43:01 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=223#comment-1689 i admit i wasnt truthful, whn the abuse atarted for me and my son, i didnt know exactly what to do? of course, it sed was sorry? but, when a man calls you "CUNT,WHORE, SLUT" all the time n is f***ing that same kind of woman...makes you want to eliminate. it will occur the drawing line hads become even, oh well. and the major biutton was pushed. oh well..has sum1 has sed over n over...smile the world will smile back! i admit i wasnt truthful, whn the abuse atarted for me and my son, i didnt know exactly what to do? of course, it sed was sorry? but, when a man calls you “CUNT,WHORE, SLUT” all the time n is f***ing that same kind of woman…makes you want to eliminate. it will occur the drawing line hads become even, oh well. and the major biutton was pushed. oh well..has sum1 has sed over n over…smile the world will smile back!

]]>