Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

I get this question almost everyday from my cheating husband (Do you really want to end this? ) I don’t want to be affectionate , because then I am leading him on and in his opinion ‘playing games’. I struggled for a while with this issue. It is really an effort to be mean when you live with someone, sometimes I wonder if this ‘being mean’ is more of an effort to me than to him. So what I have told myself is that it is in his best interest for me to present myself in a consistent manner. I personally feel the best thing to do for us is go our separate ways. And by me going back and forth, I lead him on. For example, we will have a good discussion one night, followed by an affectionate movie in the bed, and the next morning he is like ‘Man, I am so glad we are back together’. WTF??? We are not back together, it doesn’t take a movie, good conversation and some affectionate behavior to deem everything better. After a while I realized that men and women think differently and maybe my behavior was the one that needed to be changed, so I went cold turkey on him. I am not affectionate, I only interact with him when needed. We don’t do joint activities unless necessary, and I am very cold to him. I tell myself it is better than leading him on. BUT, even after all of this, he still tries to be affectionate, I still reject him, and then he says, ‘Do you really want this to end? Well, I guess it is really over’. It’s like everyday he wants to act that like day was the straw that broke the camel’s back, when really, the cheating was the straw that broke the camel’s back. Or maybe I am still giving mixed signals, oh well, who know’s at this point??? Till next time,

Jewels!