Yesterday, I decided to go to a bowling party that a former co-worker was having. My girlfriend went with me. Last week, I wanted to go to a conference and my husband said he had plans – so I got a babysitter. This weekend he said he had plans as well. Now, I am starting to think that every time I want to do something, he has plans just to make it difficult for me to go. He is the one that cheated, yet when I want to do something, it is 20 questions for me. I don’t think it is fair, and I don’t appreciate it. I use to feel really bad for going out, because he would ask questions as if I was going to do something bad, so I would go out, but rush home. And silly of me to think that maybe after all this time, he would stop doing that, but he doesn’t. But I still went out yesterday, even though he made me feel bad – and I had a good time. Then he comes in and says that he is going out, and stays out until 4am. I bet a million dollars he would not have gone out if I didn’t go bowling, but that is the kind of silliness I have to deal with, until I can afford to leave.
No related posts.
{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }
Interesting article and I felt it was a step up from prior entries on your site.
Hi! I thought I’d let you know that yours is one of the few pages that display ok on my phone in Tenerife (NEVER BUY ONE!). So I’ll no doubt be checking returning many more times lol
Hello all the way from Tenerife! (I think its good to know where in the world my blog visitors originate) I have liked reading some of your posts from the site. I had some problems with the feed reader, but I think that is working now. Now I’m able to keep up to date with you.
Thanks Maria, that’s awesome your checking in from Tenerife!! Glad that the phone version and feed reader works so well!!
This is so funny to me because it reminds me how my husband used to give me guilt trips when I would hang out with either of our parents! I wasn’t even going to a bar with friends or anything…. You gotta have friends for that! I also just read your “blessing” catagory and it does make me think how I should start putting myself first to be a more happy person. I gave up ALL of who I am for him to be a wife and mother. I’m not putting ANY blame on my daughter by no means but looking back I do see how I was subjected to his controling behavior. Lucky for me he says he now knows how horrible he was for doing that and he said that from now on me and our daughter will always come first…We’ll see how long that’ll last.
Oh my gosh – that was so me!! Especially the part where you say you gotta have friends for that…LOL!! I now realize that my ‘sacrifice’ for the family actually made me resentful and angry inside, especially dealing with the drama the few times I did go out. I am glad that your husband see’s how his behavior impacted you, and I hope that you do take some time for you, your daughter will notice and do the same when she grows up to be a beautiful young women!!
Ugh!!!! This decribes my husband to the Teee!!! I dont understand the point… Hes the one that should be trying to “make it up” to me. Thats by supporting me in everything i choose to do to help me cope!!
Yvette,
Yes!! That is exactly how I felt as well so it was a shock when he started acting like this, very bold and unfortunately, this behavior is more common than the one that we expect.