Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

So I found out my husband cheated in March, and a week later, the baby was born.  I was more upset at the fact that his reaction was not caring at all, it was more of ‘I did this because of you’.  How selfish can you get? I so wanted him to understand how hurt I was by his actions.  How could he be so mean.?  How could he not be humbled by this experience?  I hear all of the stories in the movies about husbands being so sorry and disappointed in themselves for cheating, and here I was with a jerk.  Anyways, ladies, what I realized is that I was hanging on to his every word trying to get him to give me the reaction that I wanted out of him.  And while I got close, I never got the full reaction I wanted.  I wanted him to be as hurt as I was, and I never got it.  And now, I am at the point where I don’t need it.  It was my own lack of confidence that was begging for him to be as hurt as I was, and even if he was, he never did show it.  And although I will never understand it, I am at the point where I don’t need his reaction anymore.  And ladies, if your man cheated, you don’t need his reaction either, don’t look for him to react the way you want him to, because you will be disappointed.  We can try as hard as we can to talk to a person and try to get them to react how we want them to, but the end, it usually backfires.  Be positive, stay strong, till next time….