Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

I think my husband’s affair is directly linked to the fact that we are on different maturity levels. We think differently about situations. He is very simple minded, he blames others for almost all situations in his life. I read that when you do that, it is a maturity thing. As you become more mature, you evaluate and reflect more. You think about how your actions contributed to your current state. Sadly some people never get to this state, they are stuck in level 1 maturity. For me personally, I think that I am level two, but I am overboard, to the point where I always blame myself for things. I always find something that I could do better when I reflect, and he is my flaw. So when you put those two types together, things go wrong. While married, I always felt the need to make things right, or to try and change my behavior to see what impact that had on the relationship. What is ended up doing is being frustrated, angry and upset because I felt I was doing all the work and the caring in the relationship. Couldn’t talk to him about it – he was too immature. For example, I would bring up something that upset me, and instead of talking about it, he would immediately tell me how I exemplify the same behavior, or how I was in the wrong as well. It is almost like I felt I was in debate class, trying to constantly defend my point. When your maturity levels are matched, I really feel like it is easier to have a discussion, it is easier to talk about differences, because your on the same level. I don’t think it will make the affair easier to deal with, but I think it will make your chances of recovery a little higher. That’s all for tonight.