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My Personal Journey of Growth

Hi Everyone, Today I want to share a bit of a personal message from me as well as my thoughts on the next steps for the site. I started this website in September of 2009. Seven months prior to this, I found out my husband cheated on me and it was one of the lowest Read More

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Website Upgrade

Hi Everyone, I know it has been a while. The past couple of weeks I have been working to upgrade the website. While you will not see many changes in the actual view of the site at this moment, the back end was completely upgraded.  I am still int he process of testing functionality and Read More

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The Temptation to Cheat on your Spouse

We all think our husbands are not the ‘cheating type’. The reality is, every husband (and wife) can at some point in the marriage be tempted to engage in an affair. Our society is different than it was before; opportunities to engage with the opposite sex are at an all-time high. And it is a Read More

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Cheating Husband and Male Ego

Many women write to me after they discover their husband has committed adultery. It’s overwhelming at the time because you are trying to understand why your husband had an affair, and what you should do next. Eventually, I had a game plan in my mind of what would help us get back on track. It Read More

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Affair Empowerment Song – Roar

I like this song by Katy Perry. Every time I hear it, I get excited! Happy Friday Ladies Read More

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Happy New Year!

Hi Ladies, Wanted to wish everyone a 2014 filled with clarity, peace, and understanding. Everything happens for a reason, and when we are in the mist of the storm, it is so hard to find the lesson in it all. But there is a lesson. Remember no matter what you are going through, someone else Read More

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Hope after Infidelity

Hope. It’s a powerful word. It’s something we all have deep inside. It’s that little voice that comes out and says, “It will be ok.” Everyone has what I call a hope bucket, which is filled with thoughts of a better tomorrow. Sometimes the bucket is full, and sometimes it is close to empty. After Read More

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Infidelelity Coach Da-Nay – listen LIVE today!

Hello Ladies, At 2:45 today, Da-Nay Macklin (Infidelity Coach Extraordinaire) will be on the Doug Banks radio show answer questions for listeners on infidelity. She is a friend and has been featured on OWN’s Unfaithful show. Please tune in for great insights and discussions, all the information to listen to the show is below. Join Read More

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He had an affair – again

Today ladies I want to bring up the topic of finding out your husband cheated – a second time. When I was married, I was totally devastated when my husband cheated. After I got my sanity back, I made the decision to stay and work it out. He was not being as transparent as I Read More

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Infidelity in the marriage – YOU always have a choice

Trapped. Alone. Stuck. No where to go. Can not leave. Does this sound like you? After infidelity has entered the marriage, it is common to feel trapped. I remember saying to myself, ‘I can’t love my husband after he cheated, I can’t afford the house on my own, I can’t do this to the kids Read More

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Affair Recovery – Small Acts of Joy

One of the member’s of the community (Leslie) wrote a wonderful comment about some of the things that she does when she is looking to bring herself to a better mood. Often during the recovery of infidelity (and even before), we neglect those simple little actions that bring us joy. I remember not taking those Read More

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Is my cheating spouse serious about working things out? – Part II – Action

When I first found out about the affair, my ex-husband said he wanted to work things out. I believed him. But in time, his actions were not adding up to the words that were coming out of his mouth. All talk – no action. I was driving the affair recovery even though he cheated! Part Read More

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How Affair Sites Are Ruining Marriage

You may have heard this excuse: Humans weren’t meant to be monogamous. “It’s unnatural”. The “theory” behind this excuse is that monogamy was acceptable when we only lived to be 30, but our lifespans have roughly tripled, so we can’t be expected to stay with just one person all those years. And as if it Read More

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Sexting, Texting, and Cheating

Sexting— sending text messages of a sexual nature—and cheating often go hand-in-hand. In fact, sexting was how I discovered my husband’s affair. My husband had been sexting the OW for months. Then one day, he left his phone at home. I was already feeling suspicious because of the way he had been behaving, so I Read More