Cheating Husbands - YOU ARE NOT ALONE » Money http://www.acheatinghusband.com Post Affair Recovery Site for wives who have been through the painful situation of a cheating husband Sun, 05 Sep 2010 03:18:50 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 3 ways this economy has forced me to face myself and my cheating husband http://www.acheatinghusband.com/3-ways-this-economy-has-forced-me-to-face-myself-and-my-cheating-husband%e2%80%a6/ http://www.acheatinghusband.com/3-ways-this-economy-has-forced-me-to-face-myself-and-my-cheating-husband%e2%80%a6/#comments Fri, 23 Oct 2009 01:10:43 +0000 Jewels http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=70 As I think about my life right now, I can’t complain because I am able to feed my two kids, and I have a house.  But seriously, I never though in a million years that in 2009, I would be robbing peter to pay paul to pay my mortgage, have a ton of debt, and have a cheating husband who just doesn’t GET IT!!  Anyway, though my pain, I think there are a couple of ways this economy has impacted my life, and the infidelity issues.

  1. I can’t freakin go no where – we are out of money!!  So this seriously means that we have to face each other, we have to talk, because we see each other more.  If times were different, I would be going out more, partying more, spending more.  We would of done this together and funny enough, when we went out, it is almost like we didn’t face reality, because the ‘fun’ of whatever activity we were during masked the pain.  Now it is right in front of our face, and boy, the problem we have is huge.
  2. Not sure if this is a good thing or not, but because of the economic times, I can’t move out.  We both can’t afford this house on our own (ladies, note to self, when getting a house, if you can live off of 1 income, that is ideal, so you won’t be in a situation like me). Since I caught my husband cheating, it has been rough.  But we have had some lengthy (although frustrating) conversations.  I doubt those would of occurred if financially I was in a position to leave.
  3. Being in the situation I am in….literally stuck at the house, has caused me to think about my life and reflect, reflect, reflect.  If times were good with me financially, I don’t think I would be reflecting this much saying to myself, how the **** did I get to this point in my life?  Why am I here?

So there you have it.  Curious to see if anyone else has similar experiences.

]]> http://www.acheatinghusband.com/3-ways-this-economy-has-forced-me-to-face-myself-and-my-cheating-husband%e2%80%a6/feed/ 0 To broke to leave my cheating husband http://www.acheatinghusband.com/to-broke-to-leave-my-cheating-husband%e2%80%a6%e2%80%a6/ http://www.acheatinghusband.com/to-broke-to-leave-my-cheating-husband%e2%80%a6%e2%80%a6/#comments Sun, 27 Sep 2009 03:04:19 +0000 Jewels http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=51 Yes, it sucks. Yes I said it, and yes I am embarrassed that I put myself in this situation.  I found out my husband cheated in March 2009.  August 1st 2009,  I realized it was over.  And with two kids, a huge mortgage in my name, and bills galore, I am too much in debt to leave. And ladies, this is not on of those states where he is making some good dough so if I leave I wouldn’t be able to make it.  I make more than him.  I was very careless in my early days, and racked up a good amount of debt, including an extra 12,000$ for the wedding.  When we first met, HE HAD NO DEBT.  Now he is just as bad as me.  He use to be able to contribute a good portion of his check to the home bills, now, about 25%, all because of his debt.  That caused me to have to find the other 75% to pay the bills, which ended up being credit cards, ect. ect. – you get the story.  The sad part is, even though I caught my husband cheating, I have two kids and a mortgage.  If I leave, he can’t pay the mortgage with his income alone, if he leaves, ditto.  So either way I am screwed.  I am working on trying to get a better job with more money, so wish me luck.  Not sure exactly what I am going to do, but for now, we are still living together.  Funny thing is, because of my endless research, trial and error, and just luck, I am actually much happier than I was…let’s say….7 months ago (yes, before I even knew about the affair!) Stay strong ladies, till next time!!

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