Hope everyone has been doing well. I wanted to touch on the topic of revenge. When we face a cheating husband, you feel very justified to hurt him and get him back for what he did. It’s human nature to have that little voice in your ear saying ‘You will pay for this!’. But I am here to tell you to quite that voice. Revenge is not the way to handle this situation.

Revenge actually takes a good amount of effort and time. Your already have to deal with the grief of finding out, the stress of deciding what to do next, the pain of a broken heart, and the day to day life happenings. Adding on revenge is really too much – seriously.

I will tell you something your probably won’t like – your husband will never express or show the amount of pain and misery this has caused in the same manner that you would. So sometimes in revenge you are setting yourself up for a disappointing reaction from your husband – just a thought.

To be honest with you, revenge focuses too much on your husband and his actions, and doesn’t focus on you as the individual. If I ruled the world, I wish all women in this situation focus inward as much as they focus on the marriage, because cheating rocks you to your core, and it is important to deal with that. As I deal with it myself, I feel more empowered and free. Good Night Ladies – Till next time!!

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Marriage is really tough when you find out your husband has cheated.  The reason why is that you and your husband are so vested.  You typically put in a year’s worth of time and effort just to get married.  You typically spend a good deal of money with the wedding.  You probably have joint bills that you can not pay alone.  If your dating, you can just leave.  If your living with someone, it is harder, but once that lease is up, you can leave. When your married – it takes soo long to leave, and here is why.

1. It’s costs a ton of money to get a divorce.  If you get a lawyer involved, it is 2500 off the top, and that is cheap.  Because you probably don’t trust your cheating husband anyway, most times women need to get a lawyer.  Who can afford that these days – this causes delay

2.Once you get a lawyer, you have to meet, get paperwork, figure out who is going to get what.  Who has time for that?  It is such a daunting task, you delay it because of the mental stress it is going to cause.

3. As women, you are faced with a tough dilemma, stay miserable, but have a few more dollars in your pocket, or go out on your own, potentially be happy, but be totally broke.  Again, it is just hard to think about mentally – so you delay your decision.

4. With marriage, you can’t just leave, it is a legal binding document.  So times where I just wanted to move away and forget about the marriage, that legal doc feels like jail!!

Because of the fact that you hang around for much longer after you mentally have left the relationship, that is where things get nasty.

I just wanted to share this perspective because I don’t think everyone understands what a women has to go through in making such a tough decision.  I hope me and my husband can come to an civil agreement, but sometimes I think I am staying at the house and as each day goes by, the relationship and friendship gets worse and worse.  Till next time ladies!!

-Jewels

What the article doesn’t explain is why Facebook causes divorce.  Here are the 5 top reasons that Facebook gets married couples in trouble.

1.) It is easy to get caught up in a photo with Facebook tagging.  I look at all of my husbands pics, including the one where he was dancing with another girl at some party – JERK!!   If you are cheating, and someone tags you in a photo with another women because they thought it was your wife, it’s over.

2.)Here is how it goes.  You both join Facebook. People start ‘friending’ you.  Your husband now has all these friends that are women, and your like, who the hell are all of these women….it’s like the energizer bunny, they keep coming and coming.  This causes nothing but drama for married folks….

3.)Your ex’s always seek you out on Facebook and friend you.  Facebook is like a candy jar for old flames to reach out to you.  Again, this spells nothing but trouble.

4.) These women that are your husband’s friends don’t get the fact that he is married, and post’s comments on his wall that make you want to punch them in the face because they are literally flirting via words!

5.)Easy entry for the ‘other women’ to contact you.  With Facebook, you don’t have to be friends with someone to email them.  My husband was smart enough to know not to friend the person he was sleeping with, but she was smart enough to email me via Facebook with all the details of the affair.

And the crazy thing is, these 5 reasons are all things that cause drama, without your wife even knowing your password!!  I know one husband/wife couple that don’t even use Facebook because of the potential drama – pretty smart.  I know another that won’t friend each other, because of the potential drama…ok.

All I know for sure is that the worst thing that you can do is friend ‘the other women’ on Facebook – to me, that is outright dumb.  Because the minute they get mad, they have the power to embarrass you, which i really don’t care about, but they have the potential to really embarrass your wife, which isn’t cool at all.  Stay Strong Ladies, till next time……

At this point, I don’t know if Tiger cheated or now, but I do know how angry a women can get when they find out.  I slapped, screamed, cussed, hit, and did things I never thought I would do to my husband, all out of anger.

Now it does seem a little suspect that he would run into his car with no shoes and not fully dressed and ram into a physical object.  It does seem suspect that the wife had shattered the windows.  The behavior seems consistent with a man who is afraid as all get out because they never have seen their wife so angry. And last but not least, it seems suspect that he is not saying much about the situation, which makes the gossip trail even worse.  I read a good article about advice to Mrs. Woods and you can read that using the link below for your enjoyment.

http://www.examiner.com/x-17416-Infidelity-Examiner~y2009m11d30-An-infidelity-experts-advice-to-Tiger-Woods-wife