1. It’s ok to grieve. You really should consider this as a loss in the sense that you lost your sense of reality. Any type of loss can really hurt and you have to know that it is ok to cry, really it is. I am going on a year and a half now, and I still cry every once and a while, and I am ok with that, you should be as well.

2. If you haven’t decided yet if your going to work things out or not (and you found out over 6 months ago), it’s time to really look at your situation and start determining your game plan. It either will be a game plan to exit the marriage, or a game plan to stay in the marriage. Either way, I stronger encourage you to think and plan your next steps, because living life wobbling between staying in the marriage or leaving is a huge stress to you and your husband.

3. Take some time to be alone (in a fun way – not sitting in the house). Go to a museum by yourself, or visit your favorite store or restaurant. Weather you stay or leave your marriage, you still have to be comfortable being alone, because during those times is where you energized your spirit. Try it out for yourself and let me know how it works.

These are just 3 quick tips that I hope will help you in your journey. Be safe.

Jewels

We all have our issues and struggles, and trust me, a cheating spouse is a big one, but I want you to take a step back today and be thankful for what you have.  The fact that you are reading this means that you have internet, which is filled with inspiration, be thankful.  And even though our husbands cheated, there is an experience and lesson in all of the madness and even though you may not see the lesson yet, be thankful that it is coming.  I am blessed and happy that I am able to get gifts this year for my two little ones, seeing them excited is what the holidays are all about.  Have a safe and wonderful holiday  everyone!!

Today I made a declaration that because I am at a point in my life (you know cheating husband and all) where I need a change, I am going to invest some time into creating an affirmation for myself.  I am big into writing down goals in life, and for me personally, they have worked pretty well.  For some reason, 2 kids and a husband later, I have neglected writing down affirmations.  For those of you that don’t know, affirmation is simply a thought that you write down and say to yourself.  This is especially useful when you are trying to change a behavior and habit.  For me, I need to stop looking at my messed up past and look to the future.  I haven’t written down the exact phrase I want to focus on, but once I do, I will say it over and over again until I feel comfortable that I have changed my behavior.  Unfortunately ladies, you can’t use affirmations on other people.  I am at a time in my life where I want to expect good things to happen and also have the faith that they will.  Have a happy Sunday!!  ***By the way, I just bought the book Chicken Soup for the Soul – for women who are in recovery from a divorce.  I need some encouragement!!  We all do, stay strong ladies, we are going to get through this together……